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jh0n9 · Feb 18, 2009, 02:24 PM

I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now.
In the beginning, especially the first 4 weeks or so that we were together we'd have sex or play with each other practically whenever we together, even in public, she would start touching me.
I wouldn't have to push her buttons either, she'd through herself at me all the time.
After about a month, After about two months she stopped coming on to me all together.
But she'd eventually get into it with some coaxing.
Now it's reached a point where not only does she never pursue me, but I'll come on to her physically and she'll ignore me until she's tired of me kissing and touching her and she would start avoiding and dodging it. It makes me feel like I'm rejected.
Then I figured she's just not into foreplay so I'll just tell her I want her and she always tells me that she's either too tired or not in the mood.
This is particularly confusing because she used to even tell me straight up that she wants to me. And I turn her on.
But now every time I try, she rejects me and I get kind of ticked off and ask her "why reject me?"
And she tells me she's not in the mood. Not even just a kiss.
What is this? She's not in the mood everyday.
I just want a peck kiss. Especially when wer going to part, its such a sorrow leaving without getting a kiss.

Did I do anything wrong? I basically do everything for her. I spend all my money on her.
I know money doesn't matter when it comes to love. But sometimes I need it. And I still get her something. Id even walk all the way to her house for 15 miles just to see her.

She gets mad when I open up to her telling her I feel rejected and neglected.
But iono. It hurts me. I feel like she lost interest in me.

Synnen · Feb 18, 2009, 02:37 PM

How old are you both?

jh0n9 · Feb 18, 2009, 03:00 PM

Both 18.

Synnen · Feb 18, 2009, 03:09 PM

The only way you're going to find out what's REALLY bothering her is to ask her.

bronzebabe · Feb 18, 2009, 04:32 PM

you really got into sex fast, now it's boring. find ways to spice things up.

DSM521 · Feb 18, 2009, 06:01 PM

18 is very young to be in such a sexual charged relationship. At that age she and you are still finding out about yourself. She may think things are moving to fast and just does not know how to tell you she wants to slow things down. Just like in all relationships communication is the key. Try to talk to her about your feelings and hers. Don't get mad try to be very understanding. She may feel a bit smothered.

I hate to tell you this but at that age I dated a girl that acted like that when she wanted to end the relationship. She did not want to come out and tell me she did not want to be with me anymore so she just stopped being herself and stopped all physical contact. Finally I got the point and talked to her.

Your girl may be going through this as well. To me it sounds just like my situation. She has found someone else but she did not know how to end it because she still cared for me greatly.

This may not be the issue but at 18 people tent to be very fickle.

Choux · Feb 18, 2009, 10:17 PM

Four months is a *long time* to a teen age girl looking for excitement in her life.

Try not to take it personally... go out and look for a new girlfriend; this one has checked out.

Best wishes in the future, :)

simoneaugie · Feb 19, 2009, 01:13 AM

I became that way with several boyfriends. The trouble was that they did turn me on but never did more than that. A guy that I had orgasms with was one I hung onto... Especially if he made me feel wanted too.

At her age, being honest about sex is not as imperative as being wanted. Then, later, we women begin to change, come to the realization that we want more than just to be wanted.

Next time you find someone and begin a relationship, establish honest communication from the start. Learn to read her facial expressions and body language, her tone of voice. Tell her what you see. Get feedback to see if you interpretation is correct.

smoothy · Feb 19, 2009, 06:20 AM

Maybe she feels the only thing you are after is sex...

Because that seems to be what this revolves around... not a relationship.

chrissymarie · Feb 20, 2009, 09:12 AM

You sound like a great catch... Did you know I was single? JK!

Don't blame anything on yourself. Something is wrong with her. She's taking you for granted. Your young and you have a lot of growing up to do just like me. I'd say just leave this girl and don't even try to figure her out. Denying you affection is never OK. A relationship is supposed to make both people equally happy and showing affection should not be a problem. Find someone who makes you happy. Your to young and the relationship is too new to be trying to fix it.

It seems like you got a defective product and now it's time to return it... (does that metaphor make any sense? )

Mymama · Feb 20, 2009, 10:01 AM

Treat her like she is treating u. Ask her how she likes it. Then move on. Sometimes easyer said then done, I know. Good luck!

dangiex · Feb 20, 2009, 10:42 AM

Other than the above, you could also ask her upfront whatever it is that's really bothering her. She might reply, she might not but yoju'll never know till you do. True she might be a "defective" product as mentioned before but you have to draw a line on the efforts you have to make to chase her. Or else 18 is a young age, you can definitely find someone new. :)