I think that you need to be careful here. I am not saying that whhat he is telling you is not genuine, but a month is an awfully quick time to make such a move away from family.
I served in the military and maybe can shed some light as to what may or may not be going through his mind. When you are being sent to Iraq, there are a lot of things that go through your head, it is a scary thing on many levels. He may be feeling like he needs something positive in his life that he can hang on to before he leaves. Things there are totally out of his control and having people he cares about around him before he leaves will give him a feeling of love and support and belonging that he may need. (before he is sent on a scary & dangerous tour that he has no idea what is going to happen)
As far as getting up and leaving without telling your family. I would say that if this is something you decide to do, you HAVE to tell them. I have been away from my family for 10 years. We are all very close. It is the hardest thing to face everyday (even after 10 years). Family is SO important. Jeopardizing the relationship with your family over someone you have known for a month or so really is not worth it. After only a month, you really cannot make a huge decision about moving away from family for a relationship that is so young... especially with your son involved. You have to put your child's needs and what's best for him first. Taking him into unfamiliar surroundings (for you both) where there is no support network (other than someone you have only known for about a month or so who will be leaving for a tour to Iraq) is not a good situation. He needs stability. Who will watch him while you look for work, who will watch him while you do work?
Another thing to keep in mind is in a relationship with someone in the military... is that his duties to serve come before everything. While he may be loyal to you and your son, when they tell him to go, he has to go, when they tell him he has to stay, he has to stay... it can't be *well I have my girlfriend and her son at home and we were supposed to do ______* that doesn't matter, duty first, everything else afterwards.
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