[workinglady]

Sometimes I think I have problems and think I need help and there are times I don't. I have a hard time getting close to people. I worry what they will think of me when they get close. If I keep them at a distance I don't think of these things. I haven't had a close relationship with anyone outside my family in 4 years. I feel so confident about who I am when there is no one close to me. But nights are kind of lonely. When I try to be close to someone I start stressing out about what they think and where it is all going and the bedroom sport is an issue too, I'm not confident there either. :confused:

[artlady]

I think we all have self confidence issues at one time or another.
From a personal standpoint when I am feeling self -conscious,I give myself a mental pep talk.

I remind myself what my assets are and try to put those forward.

Being good at just about anything takes practice,including bedroom sport.

Some people suggest jumping right into something that your afraid of,I'm more a take baby steps kind of person.

I think the thing to do is just take baby steps.Maybe take a class and meet like minded people that it would be easy to have a conversation with.

You also could be suffering from depression and may benefit from anti depressant drugs.

A shy friend of mine found Paxil to be a great benefit.She was really able to come out of her shell.

I am sorry I could not offer you better advice but I think basically if you want to change your behavior you just have to take action.

I hope you get the answers you are seeking.