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Lucky1911 · Feb 6, 2009, 08:27 AM

So this is tearing me up inside. I found out yesterday that I hve a brother. Let me back track a bit. My Dad wanted to make a myspace account for fun. So I made him one. He is really computer illerterate. So I made this accont. He got a message from this girl asking if it was him and that she wanted to talk to him. He also got a lot of message from people who were seeking an older man. So I did not pay too much attention. Well the girl got his phone number and she called and left a message asking him to call her. I work for my father so I'm there everyday! I heard the message and told him about it. He was all the is weird. Then it was deleted. Well he wanted me to delete the mysoace account because of all the weirdos. So I went on it to delete it and he had two messages from this girl. So I read them out of curiousity. They proceeded to say that she thought he was her husband father. It names the boys mother and she just had some questions andif it was not him then she would not bother him any longer. So I printed the message and asked him about it. He laughed and was all right I have a love child some where. And brushed it off. I was all well don't you think you owe it to them to tell them your not the person there looking for? He proceeded to tell me how it was a scam and he wante to delete his accout. I got him to reply to her and he said "I'm not who you think I am please don't contact me futher." It was just so WEIRD! I don't even know what to think. So I messagee the girl on my myspace. We talked through out the day and she kept giving more and mor information that made it seem like she was right. She the sent some picturs and BAM there is my Dad. I don't even know what to think or to do. The kid was born in 1973 and my parents got married in October 1972.

I just don't know what to do? DO I tell her that this is his father well at least the person in the picture. Obviously my Dad doesn't want contact. He had to recognize the name of the mother. Even if he dident know that the child ever existed he would have known the mothers name? I don't know what to do. I don't want to wreck my family and the relationship I have with them over someone I don't even know? I'm so scared... worried... freaked out..! I don't know what to know!!

Please help me!

artlady · Feb 6, 2009, 08:42 AM

This is all in your fathers lap and you have to tell him what you know.Do not get any more involved with this girl until you talk to your Dad about it.

We all have some skeletons in our closet and sometimes they come back to haunt us.

I can imagine how freaked out you must be but it is not your place to get anymore involved.If you had not snooped on his private message you would be clueless right now.It is his responsibility to do the right thing,hopefully he will forgive your snooping and come clean.
Best of luck!

Lucky1911 · Feb 6, 2009, 08:52 AM

Thank you

Fadingxlullaby · Feb 6, 2009, 08:54 AM

You have a right to know the truth. If you are right then you have a brother and you should absolutely have him in your life. Talk to him and tell him what you do know and wait for an explanation. If he still denies and you really feel that this person might be your brother you could always convince him to take one of those drug store dna tests (CVS, Walgreens, etc should have them). You send in a piece of each person's hair and they can tell you if in fact they are related. Good luck

talaniman · Feb 6, 2009, 09:01 AM

This is for your father to figure out, not you. He is the one who will pay the consequences of his actions.

I know how freaked out you must be, but I advise you to back off this situation, and let t play out as it will.

Trust me, I know how you feel, but don't judge DAD, there is no telling what the real story is.

Lucky1911 · Feb 6, 2009, 09:28 AM

I just fee bad for this "Brother". How do you just ignore it. I don't even know what to do or whaat to think. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my father. It's just so much to process!

neverme · Feb 6, 2009, 11:19 AM

I agree with what's been said. This is your father's problem and it's his to deal with but unfortunately we can't erase things we know no matter how hard we try. So basically I think you should tell your dad what you know because otherwise you will grow resentment towards him.

Tell him what you know and that you realise that it's his issue to deal with, if you feel comfortable with that. Me personally, I'd have to know more. But I have learned in the past that what I need and what I have to know aren't always the same thing, so choose your actions carefully because once you know you can't un-know... you know? :)

Best of Luck.

Romefalls19 · Feb 6, 2009, 11:28 AM

This is your dad's problem, and could very well be a hoax, you don't know the details. I would let the situation go as it's going to create a conflict if you push this

roxypox · Feb 6, 2009, 12:13 PM

I understadn that you're curious and confused, I would have been to, but the only thing you can do is let your dad handle this as he wish. You could always give him the rest of the info, or let him think about it for a while. But don't create a conflict with him.

Like the others have said, you never know what really happened, or what the truth is... and in worst case scenario this is a hoax.

Good luck!

Fadingxlullaby · Feb 6, 2009, 12:38 PM

I agree! Very true