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juliforever55 · Feb 4, 2009, 10:32 PM

Hey you all! Well I just wanted to start a conversation. About teen pregnancy.. look to me like that's happening a lot in the society today! I know at least 4 of my friends that are younger the 17 that have or expceting a baby soon.. its crazii. But I'm just here to support them threw it. Yes I do think its to young but hey they got to pay for their consinquince for what they did.. just like if I were to be pregnant, that would be on me and whomever I would be pregnant by because we know the outcome and yeah. That would be on us.. but I see that as a big issue now days. People getting abortions which I don't support. I mean I know people that have gotten them but that's on them not me.. of course I tell them how I see it but that's on them.like I said. I don't know let me know what you think.

DoulaLC · Feb 5, 2009, 04:22 AM

Glad to hear you are supporting your friends. Too often teens find their friends start to disappear when they become pregnant.

Whether someone chooses abortion is up to them, as you said. Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions on it. Most will never know what they would actually do because they won't be in that position to have to make that decision. Even when someone does find themselves faced with the situation, reactions will be different due to different circumstances, a different upbringing, different goals, different life experience, etc..

It will always be a hot topic simply because you are dealing with individuals.
You can still support the person without having to support their decision when you don't agree with it.

artlady · Feb 5, 2009, 04:33 AM

As DoulaC said,it is great that you are supporting your friends because what every young unmarried Mom needs is a good support network.It is vital to the success of the future of both Mom and baby.

I think many young girls think that they want someone to love so much and someone they can love back that having a baby is the answer.

The reality is that parenting is the hardest job there is and you need maturity and the willingness to put your life on hold while you concentrate your all on this helpless person you are now solely responsible for.

Good of you to be there for your friends,I'm sure your support means a lot!

lover22nana · Feb 5, 2009, 10:35 AM

Hi everyone I'm 15 and I was pregnant last febaury I think it's not the best choice in the world but it's ont the mother and father should deal with I reamber I was going through a lot with my friends and family juging me all the time... not the half people who put me as an outcast during that time I no longer talk to I just stay clear out there way... I mean it's good to support but right now those females need their mom which some of them probably don't have her cause she is mad or upset but I'm telling you always tell your friends abortion is out of the question even if they feel it's the right choice it's hurts the mother in a long run it's been almost a year now since I was forced to have an abortion and I still cry each night

DoulaLC · Feb 5, 2009, 12:58 PM

So sorry to hear you were forced into it. It certainly needs to be a decision that the person feels is the right one for them. Just as no one should be forced to raise a baby or give a baby up for adoption. Any decision will likely have its moments of questioning of whether it was the right thing to do, there will possibly be regret (at least once in awhile), there may be relief or great joy depending on the decision and the circumstances involved.

Regardless of the feelings, and the suggestions of others, it ultimately needs to be the person's decision... and one they feel they can live with.

juliforever55 · Feb 5, 2009, 01:12 PM

Originally Posted by lover22nana

hi everyone i,m 15 and i was pregnant last febaury i think it's not the best choice in the world but it's ont the mother and father should deal with i reamber i was going through alot with my friends and family juging me all the time... not the half people who put me as an outcast during that time i no longer talk to i just stay clear out there way.... i mean it's good to support but right now those females need their mom which some of them probably dont have her cause she is mad or upset but im telling you always tell your friends abortion is out of the question even if they feel it's the right choice it's hurts the mother in a long run it's been almost a year now since i was forced to have an abortion and i still cry each night

Yes it is out of the questions. And I'm truly sorry you've had to go threw that! All you can do now is just advice your friends or peers to not do that! Everyone is for themselves. They know the consequences of having sex. And they can't blame no one but consequences you know.. and it should be up to you if or not your willing to keep the baby!. I honestly think that is bad and I'm glad you think that why you. But others have to realize that. And that goes for who ever forced to you do it. That was dead wrong and like I said I truly am sorry!

Maccaroni · Feb 5, 2009, 01:50 PM

The thing that really baffles me these days is that the level of accidental teenage pregnancies are going down in the area I live, but the rates of planned teen pregnancies are shooting up. I'm pregnant now and I'm 25 in a serious relationship. I own my own house and have a really good job, and yet I still feel like I have given up a massive part of my youth. I can't go out drinking with my friends and that sounds like nothing but it pushes you away from a lot of people. Only your true friends stand by you, and you will be surprised how many don't. Friends without kids don't really understand that you are so tired you can't even face getting ready, that you really don't have anything to wear and your confidence is really low at times. When you are out you can't relax because your distracted by people pushing past you, your ankles swelling, feeling bloated etc. Even in the easiest pregnancies its an emotional roller coaster. You can want your baby more than anything in the world but you have feelings where you think 'Oh my god, can I really do this?'. Your priorities change and every time you get a twinge you panic. What I'm trying to say is that is is hard enough without having to worry about your finances, how your parents will feel (and I mean when you're an adult who has moved out of home never mind a teenager living with your parents), whether your partner will stay with you, where you are going to live etc. It should be something you plan when you have something real to offer a child. You need life experience to pass on to your child, that's why your mum is always right. You should feel like you have achieved the things in your life that you wanted to do first. Also you need to be comfortable with your body. At 15 I would have died before telling my mum I had had sex, or talking to my doctor about bladder concerns, having internal exams, losing complete control over wind problems and all that is before you give birth! I could not do all this if it wasn't for the fact my partner is 100% supportive. I know he doesn't care if I look fat, if I break wind, if I don't feel like going out five minutes before we are meant to be some where. I know that even when we haven't had sex in weeks he still won't look at another woman. I have my mum on speed dial and I can ask her anything. I have friends who know I might not want to go out so they come over instead and drink non-alcoholic wine with me so I don't feel left out. I couldn't have done any of this without them so why would you want to put yourself though something you don't have to when all it takes is waiting? Falling pregnant by accident is a little different. You are forced to make the hardest choice of your life. You have to choose to sacrifice what you need for your baby and I have great respect for those who choose to do that. Or you have to choose to let go of what could have been. I also respect people making that decision when they are doing it because they know that they could not offer their child the stability a child needs. But again, why force yourself to have to make this decision when pregnancy is (in most cases) so easily avoided? Sorry for the rant xxx

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