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logansmommie · Feb 4, 2009, 09:57 AM

I have never used drugs or abuse my son or neglect him as well. I did panic when he was very young ( I was 21) and I was overwhelmed. He has never known his dad. I ask my parnets to help before I knew what I was signing they were getting temp.gaurdianship of him. It has never been a problem till now (8 years later) because they live on a 9 acre farm he has dirtbikes ATVs snowmobiles everything the all american kid would want. I never bowed out I worked very hard and he was with me just as much as them but I did move a lot and thought it was best he go to the same small town school I did. So I have let him live with them full time school year part time summer. Last Aug08 I filed for termination of guardianship we have had a gal and everything. My mothers says I'm a great mom but thinks I smoke pot, I have offered over and over to the courts that I will take a drug test but no one will do it. I have no drug history never had a drug problem but this is still dragging on what are my chances of getting my son and starting are lives over away from here. Im his mom and the only parnet he has ever known.

Justwantfair · Feb 4, 2009, 10:01 AM

You are having a difficult time because the courts favor status quo when a situation is working and healthy for a child they do not like to uproot the child.

Right now your parental rights will not give you too much additional leverage all you can do is continue the process and hope for the best. It will be beneficial to prove that you are not using drugs, but it may not change the outcome.

GirlWSlingshot · Feb 4, 2009, 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by logansmommie

what are my chances of getting my son and starting are lives over away from here. Im his mom and the only parnet he has ever known.

I can understand your desire to have and raise your son. But at this point I would strongly reevaluate the last sentence of your post. Your parents have been acting as his parents. So you're not really the only parent he's ever known, they are. And that is how the court will most likely look at it.

This isn't exactly legal advice, but can you move closer to your son? Maybe move back in with your parents so that he will have you there every day? If you ever did get custody back it wouldn't be as big of a change for him if he was used to seeing you every day. And you might be able to handle this without as much court involvement (as in no legal battle against your parents) if you lived there for a while and showed your mom that you're ready to handle this responsibility.