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kayleigh-star · Feb 2, 2009, 06:26 AM

I was in a relationship with a boy of 14 same age as I was at the time but just before my birthdayy we split up because I was scared too try any sort of sex with him. So I told everyone that I have already dun everythink. But now I have got people asking me to have sexual intercorse with them for fun and I want to so then I won't be scared when it comes to doing t with a partner, also I feel left out as all my friend have lost their virginity and I am now 15 and still a virgin what do I do?

Curlyben · Feb 2, 2009, 06:32 AM

WAIT until you are LEGAL!!

The legal age for sexual relations in the UK is 16 !
Anything below this age is classed as Statutory Rape and punishable by registration on the Sex Offenders register and a possible prison sentence.

talaniman · Feb 2, 2009, 06:48 AM

Stay a virgin, as sex is not a toy, or something to play with. Your friends are playing with fire, and will get burnt, so think about it.

When your 16, thats all the guys will want from you, and your already seeing that now, hold off, and watch how many will get PREGNANT, and no guy to help them raise that child.

Then you will see the cost of just having sex for fun. Your friends may seem so cool, and I understand you want to be like them, but they are kids, just like you, who don't even know what your doing.

So have your fun and see how much fun being pregnant, or having a disease is.

Think now, because later is too late.

bluespear · Feb 2, 2009, 07:46 AM

Why do you want to have sex in the first place once you've done it you can't change it back. You've lost everything that's important to a young girl of your age. Stay as long as you can a virgin... Aids is no persons playmate!

Justwantfair · Feb 2, 2009, 08:22 AM

There are numerous people in your age group that are waiting to have sex, but as you can see from the peer pressure around you it is more acceptable for your age group to be having sex.

Don't feel alone just because you believe that "everyone is doing it". You will always regret feeling pressured to have sex before you are ready. Stand your ground and keep your virginity for as long as you can.

princess90k · Feb 2, 2009, 01:04 PM

When I was your age, I thought exactley the same and my older and wiser sister said to me if you go off having sex with whoever when your older no one will want you because they will now you shagged around and most probley they already had you. To boys they are bigger and better for how many girls they slept with but for girls were slappers. I no its not right but that's what its like these days. Please wait... I no you don't know me and I probley won't make a difference in your answer, but do you want to be the girl that the boys look at and say I heard she's slept with bascially everyone she's a slapper. Or she's a decent girl with a head on her shoulders. Honestly babe. Most of your friends probley haven't even done it and are just pretending to. You can never be great at sex, its who your having sex with that makes it good. Hope I've helped! Xx

ScottGem · Feb 2, 2009, 01:17 PM

Originally Posted by kayleigh-star

now i have got people askin me to have sexual intercorse with them for fun and i want to so then i wont be scared when it comes to doing t with a partner, also i feel left out as all my friend have lost thier virginity and i am now 15 and still a virgin what do i do?

First, you need new friends if they have all lost their virginity by 15. Though I suspect most of them have not and are just saying so due to peer pressure.

Second, sex is not a recreational sport! Its something you share with someone you care about deeply. When its done that way, no need to be scared about it. What's scary is doing it just for fun.

Finally, NO ONE should be having sexual intercourse until they arre physically, emotionally, and financially prepared to have a child. There is no 100% surefire method of birth control except abstinence. So anytime you have intercourse you are risking pregnancy. Do you really want to be a 16 year old with a baby?

mizz_on_her_own · Feb 3, 2009, 10:02 AM

Keep your innocence! Don't just throw it away. Wait for the right time and person WHEN YOU"RE OLDER!!!! And just because your friends aren't virgins doesn't mean you should feel left out. You should feel proud of yourself for holding on to your innocence. They are the ones who will later regret throwing it away not you... if you hold on to your innocence. Be proud of it not cover it up.

Meaning don't be afraid to say that yeah I a virgin.

XM8 · Feb 4, 2009, 01:38 PM

I couldn't agree more with everyone who posted here.

Having sex at your age is just sssoooo not worth it. Trust me, I'm 16 and I had sex with my ex-girlfriend when I was 15.

Am I proud? Am I happy? Do I think it's "cool"? NO! because it only took me a few months to realise what an idiot I was for doing it.

Just like ScottGem put it

NO ONE should be having sexual intercourse until they arre physically, emotionally, and financially prepared to have a child.

Now that is what I call wisdom.

As for your friends - forget them. They're probably just blowing their horns, trying to look cool (which in fact makes them look the opposite).

And if they really have had sex, you need some new friends because those aren't the right kind of girls to be hanging out with - they know it, and you know it.

Hope we've all shed some light on the matter.

-Xm8

Silverfoxkit · Feb 4, 2009, 02:37 PM

You shouldn't feel pressured by anyone else under any circumstances to have sex! Being a virgin isn't a disease, its something to be proud of! If you're friends look down on you because of it, its time to find new friends. You are right to be scared! Having sex for fun is like playing Russian roulette! You are gambling your entire life every single time. You may get pregnant, or get an incurable STD like AIDS. The pleasure only lasts say twenty minutes average, but the regret will last FOREVER. You will never be able to look at yourself the same way again.