[seo]

Hi Guys:

It’s me again. Ok…for those who need to get up-to-date about what going, in my life please visit this link: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...tml#post147864

I was online (I deleted her from my msn to avoid contact but she can still see me) and she said hi. So I responded to her. I didn’t talk about the relationship at all – as you guys suggested. Our conversation is below. Can you guys have a look and let me know your thoughts? At the end, she said that she missed me. But I didn’t say anything back. Do you guys think I should text her back and say I also miss her?

She also asked what I’ve been up to. I said that I went on a cruise to let her know I’ve been busy. She asked if it was a date and I said not to go there.. think I responded OK? Do you guys think I have the edge now and something to work with? How can turn this to my advantage?

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Her: are you there?

Me: hey

Her: how are you?

Me: I'm good.. how are u?

Her: I may be getting promoted

Me: really.. thats awesome... to what?

Her: I know, nothing for sure, the girl just gave her 2 weeks, and I am up for her position, which means higher status, more money and I would work mon-fri

Me: nice... im sure that you will get it... no more weekends

Her: I don't know... if I don't, I will LOSE IT!

Me: I know, that would be so great to have a normal schedule again; one step at a time... if not this one, the next

Her: it is the same job I did for 3 years; I HAVE TO GET IT!

Me: YOU WILL

Her: so what is new?

Me: not too much... I went on a boat cruise yesturday...

Her: really? That's nice, where?

Me: it was fun.. the ones by my place

Her: on a date?. lol

Me: funny... lets not go there for now OK

Her: I know... I am seriously kidding; I really like that pic by the way

Me: thanks... are you heading to the cottage tomorrow?

Her: no.. staying home, I have to work Monday, a friend of mine from Newmarket is coming to visit me tomorrow, that's about it

Me: you work tomorrow then?

Her: yup... stuppid friggin' life

Me: you love it; when is the big move?

Her: well, August. 1st, which is a Saturday, but I am going to see if they let us in a couple days early... it is empty right now, and that way we don't move on the long weekend

Me: you mussssssst be excited...

Her: well, kind of, but now I am nervous... I am not sure about living with someone now

Me: that's normal

Her: I forsee problems

Me: lol... youre never sure about anything are u

Her: so true... I am never sure, well I am sure about something's, I just make the wrong decisions

Me: why are you not sure about it

Her: everything right now, I think Lisa and I are too different

Me: I told you that

Her: I know... but it is worth a try

Me: take sometime for yourself with your family... free rent and enjoy your freedom

Her: I am more concerned she will have a hard time living with me, I think I would be a difficult person to live with; in fact.. I know I am

Me: I can see that

Her: shut it! No really, do you think so

Me: that you would be hard to live with?

Her: yes

Me: umm... yes and no...

Her: your easy going so no...

Me: haha... safe answer

Her: then, what is the no part

Me: I think that you guys are too diff though

Her: I know.and I like to go out a lot, she doesn't at all; and I like to drink with my friends, and she doesn't drink at all; and I am very peticular and knida bossy

Me: your at diff stages in your life.. honestly.. of she and hey boyfriend work out... then... he will be there all the time

Her: I KNOW!!

Me: but I told you this

Her: God, I don't know if I can take him all the time; oh well, I am out most nights, so I won't see them

Me: lol; good way to put it

Her: I thought so... :P; I better go, I have to blow dry my hair

Me: OK... talk to you later

Her: I miss you; sorry I had to say that

(I DID NOT REPSOND! - she waited a thirty seconds to see what I would say I think - then went offline)

[Skell]

I wouldn't say anything back.
I wish you didn't have this contact with her but you did.
Id just leave it for now and keep on doing your own thing.
She is just seeing if she still has you and she does.
You have to remove yourself from her life for a while and work on yourself. Don't worry about her.
I am glad you didn't respond to the last statement. That was good.
So don't respnd now. If she really misses you and wants you back then she will eventually come back to you. I wouldn't go to her at all right now!

[talaniman]

No contact was for you to heal not gain some advantage. Peoples feelings are not to be toyed with... What goes around, comes around.

[Blazingsun]

Yeah.. no contact means no contact.. no msn no emails nuthin. Once u get the contact it messes with your head and heart again and u fall back into the same pit you fought so hard to climb out of.

You need time for you, without her, period.