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cfbabee · Jan 27, 2009, 07:19 PM

Over the summer I started hanging out with this kid who was older thann me. Through this time we have grown close and he used to call me every night. Recently his friends have tried to trick me into think he hooks up with other girls because we don't get along. I used to believe them but then I kept catching them in lies so I stopped paying attention to them. Lately he hasn't been calling me as much and it started to concern me. I called him to talk about it and he made me feel a lot better. The next day he bought me a very expensive necklace and told me I need to stop worrying. A week later I found out he had a girlfriend, I confronted him about it and he admitted they started talking but he still wants to remain friends with me. I am so confused as to why he would do this.

moonbounce7 · Jan 27, 2009, 07:45 PM

From your story, it sounds like you guys were never officially "dating," or had any formal discussion about your relationship status. I know what happened really hurts, but it is true that you never had a commitment, so he didn't really "leave you."

It sounds like he was trying to hide this other girl (his gf) from you. If he were trustworthy, wouldn't he tell you about her? Maybe he thought he could have you both. It sounds like he was being pretty sneaky. You're better off without him. You wouldn't want a boyfriend that was buying other girls expensive necklaces, would you?

kctiger · Jan 27, 2009, 07:45 PM

Why he would do this?

1. Poor character
2. Very young and immature
3. Because he doesn't really know how to treat women

Look, I could go on. I am sorry you are hurt, but clearly you are young, and this kind of immature stuff happens all of the time... especially as a blossoming adult (although it does happen sometimes as you get older as well).

Just be glad you don't have him in your life anymore, and DO NOT let him talk you, or manipulate you, into his life again.

Good luck! You will be fine. It is painful, but things that go around come around, so he will be on the short end of the stick one day...

neverme · Jan 28, 2009, 08:17 AM

It doesn't matter what his reasons for doing it were. All of them are b******t.

He doesn't care about you. Don't contact him and don't be friends with him. Just move on find someone who deserves you.

chrissymarie · Jan 28, 2009, 01:41 PM

Ewww! This guy is a player and doesn't care about you. Believe his friends. They have no reason to lie to you. He's already shown himself to be a liar and a player because he started dating another girl while talking to you.

Grab that neckklace and take it to the pond shop. Go out and have some fun with that money.