
Originally Posted by
katiekayla1
What about the mother's rights!! There are women out there that desperately need to start a new life somewhere else for there own sanity! Examples like this one are prime excuses for men to still "control" them through the children. The fact that the court can control where you live is ridiculous. Make arrangements to visit them on school breaks and during summer.
Normally I would have just removed this because you were responding to a thread from April 2007. But I felt you deserved an answer so I moved it to the thread you started.
You need to be more objective and put yourself in the other person's shoes. What if it were you the non-custodial parent? What if you kep up your visitation with your child and the custodial parent wanted to move far enough away they you couldn't maintain the same schedule? This is not an issue of mother's right or father's rights. Its an issue of the NCP's rights over the CP's rights.
In your case you have a restraining order against the father. Yet he has visitation with the daughter so the restraining order doesn't extend to her. Is he following the visitation schedule? If not, then you need to keep a journal of all the times he missed. Then you can go baclk to the court and tell them he is not keeping the schedule so that your moving wouldn't be a hardship to him. Its not a given that the court will go along, but its what you need to do.
Yes your ex may be a jerk, but not every NCP is. And NCP's do have rights as well. You talk about men continuing to control women in this way. But what about the woman's control. In the vast majority of cases, the mother gets primary custody and child support. So now the father has to get himself a new place to live while contributing to the children. Generally the father's get the short end of the stick in these things. Some continue to support their kids, others put the mother's through hell.
You ask about mother's rights, but that's not the issue here, it's the rights of the children to be with both parents that is the main concern.