[B H Roush]

My 17 year old daughter moved in with my ex-husband... I am heart broken. The only reason I can think she did is... because she now has a boyfriend that lives close to her dad (we live more out in the country). Her step father and I do have more rules than her dad... rules like keeping up good grades... Certain time for bed and off phone... not staying out late on a school night... At her dad's and his girlfriends apartment they don't seem to follow through on rules like this.I just want her to come home... Help me, how can I get her back home with out upsetting her every time I bring it up.

[random_chick]

I'm only 15 but I can try and help. You could let her go to her dad's on thew weekends and let her stay up about and hour or so longer. Also just make sure she doesn't fall behind on her grades though because they are important. When you have a partner you tend to forget about everything apart from them. Family, friends... etc. just give her a reason to come back home. Just don't give her everything she wants because she will forget everything that is important like her grads.

Hope I have helped you

[ScottGem]

I was tempted to move this to the Family Law forum, because it seems to be a question of law, but then maybe not.

The legal answer is that, if you have a court order stating you are the custodial parent, then she cannot move without your permission until she is 18. Her father would need to go to court to modify the order.

But there is also a parenting side to this question. A problem exists if the lines of communication are so closed that your daughter would move like that. You need to reopen those lines and try to re-establish a better relationship. Maybe get a family counselor to act as an intemediary.