Should I try again?
My x and I were together almost 5 years and had a beautiful little girl. The beginning of last August she left me and said she wasn't happy with me anymore. A lot of stuff has happened with us, lots of arguing, and lots of really bad things said. She even brought the new guy she was hanging out with (and eventually slept with) over to help her move out of our house.
About a month ago, I finally started to feel like I was getting over her.. I met a few new people and have been hanging out with them a lot lately. Well, now my x is trying desperately to get me back. She says she finally realized what she had, and realized that she can't live without me. The last couple weeks, she has been being very nice to me again, we've even gone out a couple times, and had fun each time.
Last Sunday would have been our 5 year anniversary, I took her out to dinner, and gave her, her old engagement ring back. I told her the ring does not mean anything that it used to mean, and never will. All it means, as long as she wears it, is that we both promise to try to be nice, and see where things go. When and if we ever get back to that point, she would get a new engagement ring. She had told me if I take her back, she wanted it to be on our old anniversary date, that way it could stay the same. I told her no, I don't want that date. To me, that date just marks the beginning of a relationship that failed, we need to start completely over with as much as we can.
I do still love love her... but I also am finally starting to enjoy being single. I told her all we are right now is friends. We need to go a few months at least this way to make sure things can change. I don't know... am I doing the right thing by telling her this? I told her I don't want her to feel like I'm leading her on, although I haven't, and don't plan to sleep with anyone else, I like the feeling of being able to go do what I want when I want.
Should I try again, or just let her go?
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