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    Jan 11, 2009, 05:25 AM
    My lover is not ready to commit
    Im in a relationship for almost a year now. We had never talked about commitments earlier, now when we discussed about marriage I was shocked to see my lover ddnt have an answer. He says he can't say anything, since his family and parents are very orthodox and can't marry outside their cast. He was not even ready to try, but had made his mind that it won't workout, and was at the edge of giving up. We went through a tough period those times, I was confused and ddnt want to push him so much, because I felt he is not so interested. But he loves me a lot, and says he will try once.
    I'm pretty sure I can convince my parents , I can give up anything for my love. But I don't see the same from him. I'm confused, helpless, and I'm trying to make my mind think that its never going to work out. Its very hard, tough for me to go through this alone. I try to put on a smile and behave normally with him. Im afraid ill lose him if I push him too much.
    Kindly advice.
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    Jan 11, 2009, 09:46 AM

    How old are you? Do you live together? Is there sex involved?

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