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Karraa77 · Jan 9, 2009, 10:48 AM

I'm 9 days late I took 2 pregnancy tests and both came out negative. I had an abortion about 8 months back and have really regretted it so this would be a blessing for me. My period is always regular, I am on birth control but I've never been this late before with it not even close. I feel like I did last time I was pregnant, I feel like I'm getting my period without the cramping yet no period. I have some symptoms such as very tender/sore breasts. Nausea on and off during the day, and feeling pretty tired. Could the abortion and birth control have messed my hormones up so the pregnancy test isn't detecting it? I also took tests from dollar tree so I don't know if that matters... What should I do?

GirlWSlingshot · Jan 9, 2009, 10:57 AM

The dollar tree tests are pretty sensitive and usually pretty reliable. But you could be having one of those fluke pregnancies I keep hearing about where the home tests don't accurately detect it.

I would definitely place a call to the doctor. They might be able to give you a quantitative HCG blood test to tell for sure if you're not pregnant. It would probably be prudent to treat yourself as if you are pregnant for the time being, you know the drill... no alcohol or unnecessary medications.

On a different note, have you seen someone for counseling post-abortion? It might help, pregnant or not, if you had a support person or group locally that you could talk to. There are bound to be some pretty big emotions brought up by a subsequent pregnancy.

Keep us posted!

*Hugs*

Karraa77 · Jan 9, 2009, 11:03 AM

What makes it hard with making an appointment is I'm going on a trip with my family here in a week for 8 days, not knowing is killing me. I just really feel like I am, I can't explain it. No I never went to counseling... it felt too weird for me. I really hope I am, I feel it will make it right for me again. And I'm going to really make sure I treat myself as though I'm pregnant, I don't want anything messing it up.

GirlWSlingshot · Jan 9, 2009, 11:10 AM

You might want to at least call your gp. They might be able to squeeze you in before your trip.

(Not exactly the same circumstances... ) But I kind of know how you feel about this pregnancy making it right for you. I miscarried at 7 weeks in 1/06. It really got to me but I was stubborn and didn't do any counseling. When I found out I was pregnant again almost immediately, it felt like it was making up for the loss of that baby. But there were still some underlying emotional issues there that I had to battle throughout the pregnancy.

Karraa77 · Jan 9, 2009, 11:16 AM

I know what you mean, I had the abortion at 7 1/2 weeks, so if I am pregnant I'm going to be scared to death until I get past that time. I know its going to bring back memories I'd rather not think of, and if I were to not be pregnant or have a miscarriage its really going to be a hit to to me. I'm going to call the dr after I get to work today. I hope they can squeeze me in, in 6 days.

GirlWSlingshot · Jan 9, 2009, 11:22 AM

That was what I was concerned about and why I suggested getting some support somehow.

Just remember that no matter what happens with this pregnancy, this is not your reproductive end. Unless you're pre-menopausal, which I'm guessing is not the case, you've got some time to build your little family.

And I meant it when I said to keep us posted. ;) I'll be thinking about you so don't leave me hanging...

Karraa77 · Jan 9, 2009, 11:28 AM

I will definitely keep you posted and thank you so much for being so caring and for the advice I really appareciate it! I'll probably have another post when I get home about whether I got the appointment or not. Wish me luck!

Karraa77 · Jan 10, 2009, 10:15 PM

Well today I got my period... 10 days late. I feel actually pretty awful. I really thought I was and I was so excited. I guess I just don't deserve it.

GirlWSlingshot · Jan 12, 2009, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by Karraa77

Well today I got my period...10 days late. I feel actually pretty awful. I really thought I was and I was so excited. I guess I just don't deserve it.

Oh honey, pregnancy or lack of pregnancy has nothing to do with being deserving. I've seen women who are wonderful and would be incredible mothers but cannot seem to get pregnant. And I've seen women get pregnant over and over who willfully endanger their unborn children by continuing to use drugs even after they know they're pregnant.

Just from the little we've heard from you, I have faith that when the time is right, you're going to be pregnant and be an amazing mother. So take this as your chance to get everything in line for your future children. Find the person you want to be their father and your partner, get your home, finances, and body ready to best support them. But most importantly at this point, get some counseling so that when you are ready to have your children, you're prepared to handle all the emotions that come up.

Even though you're not pregnant this time, you will be someday. So make sure that when it happens, you're ready.

*Hugs*

This is not your fault, this was not a judgement passed on you.

Karraa77 · Jan 14, 2009, 10:55 PM

Aww thank you, that did make me feel a lot better. Yes hopefully one day I will be and something didn't permanently get messed up. I just hope I am as an amazing mother as you think I will be. I don't know about counseling, but maybe it will help me put the past in it's place... The funny thing is though right now I feel like I'm pregnant, maybe it's just wishful thinking I'm not sure. I keep getting these sharp pains in my lower abdomen, maybe it's just from my period I don't know but its really painful.