[veronica1990]

How do I find my real parents

[Clough]

Hi, veronica1990!

A lot of times, the biological parents of a child put the child up for adoption for really good reasons.

I know that it can hurt not knowing who your biological parents are. Sometimes it's possible to find them, but most of the time it's not possible.

A person's parents in the real sense though, are those who play the part - love and take care of the child, are there for the child, etc.

Is there a particular reason that you're wanting to find your biological parents, please?

Hopefully, someone will come along who knows a lot about adoption.

I wish for you only the best!

Thanks!

[ITstudent2006]

Hello Veronica,

I was adopted when I was 7 years old and I have never been interested in finding my real parents ( although I do know a little about them).

Maybe this is because I have been given a good life and feel no need upset it. I realize that I was taken away from my parents because og neglect (both parents put in jail/prison for drugs) so if I were to find my parents who's to say they would care now!

I just wanted to share this with you to explain that there are reasons that you were pt into the system and them reasons are no small pushover ones.

While I'll try to help you as much as I can I wanted to know the reasoning behind your initiative. If you could let me know that would be greatly appreciated.

[Synnen]

When someone tells me who their IMAGINARY parents are, I'll gladly help them find their REAL parents.

In the meantime, please specify which kind of parent you are looking for: Biological parent, step-parent, grandparent, great-grandparent, adoptive parent, foster parent, godparent, or sponsor parent.

[Fr_Chuck]

Your real parents or real mom is the lady at home that raised you, that was there to take you to church or went to your school plays.

Your egg and sperm donors or bio parents are the ones that gave you birth.

So if you are looking for a real parent, go to your home, if you want to find a bio parent that is not and never will be the real mom, then tell us

When and where born
What is her name,
Where was she from

[Synnen]

Egg donor:
Egg donation is the process by which a woman provides one or several eggs (ova, oocytes) for purposes of assisted reproduction or biomedical research. For assisted reproduction purposes, egg donation involves the process of in vitro fertilization as the eggs are fertilized in the laboratory. After the eggs have been obtained, the role of the egg donor is complete. Egg donation is part of the process of third party reproduction.

Sperm donor
Sperm donation is the name of the provision (or 'donation') by a man, known as a sperm donor, of his semen with the intention that it be used to achieve a pregnancy and produce a baby in a woman who is not the man's sexual partner and with whom the man does not have sexual intercourse. Attempts are made to impregnate a woman with the donor's sperm using third party reproduction techniques notably artificial insemination.

A sperm donor may donate his sperm directly to the woman recipient, or he may donate it at a clinic known as a sperm bank.

Sperm provided in this way is known as donor sperm.

Sperm donation commonly assists couples unable to produce children because of 'male factor' fertility problems, but it is increasingly used as a means to enable single women (termed choice mothers) and single and coupled lesbians to have children.[1] The sperm donor is the genetic or biological father of each child produced with the use of his sperm. When a donor's sperm is successfully used repeatedly for impregnation, numbers of siblings and half-siblings will be produced.

Donors may be either anonymous or non-anonymous, although laws may require donors to be one or the other, or restrict the number of children each donor may father. Although many donors choose to remain anonymous, new technologies such as the internet and DNA technology has opened up new avenues for those wishing to know more about the biological father, siblings and half-siblings.

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There is a HUGE difference between those terms and the terms BIRTHMOTHER, BIRTHFATHER, FIRST MOTHER and FIRST FATHER.

Frankly, anyone with eggs or sperm can become an egg donor or a sperm donor. It takes a hell of a lot more than THAT to become a BIRTHPARENT or FIRST PARENT.

I am HIGHLY offended by the terms "egg donor" and "sperm donor" in relation to adoption.

I will start referring to the adoptive parents as the "defective parents' if that usage doesn't stop.

There is no such thing as a "real" parent unless all the terms I used in my first post are considered "real" parents. I'm not imaginary, I wasn't an egg donor, I was a BIRTHPARENT, and I was my child's FIRST parent.

If someone is looking for their biological parent as opposed to a step- or adoptive-parent, that's fine. Please feel free to correct their use of the term "real". I will continue to protest the use of the word "real"--because any REAL parent steps up and does what is right for the child involved, regardless whether they chose a better life for a child or raised the child or simply helped a child by giving them a home when their biological parents could not (I'm thinking of foster care with that last one).

But please do not disparage those who made a loving choice in adoption by calling them "egg donors" or "sperm donors". That's like calling all adoptive parents "defective baby makers"

[icexxxprincessx]

I made a decision to give my son to an excellent couple 6 months ago. I was 5 months pregnant when I found out and they were able to be there every step of the way. When my son was born, he was theirs, and I had every reason for giving him to them. I know that he will have the best life possible with them, a life I never could have given him, so when he decides, if ever, he wants to see me, they have left all avenues open and will accept him with open arms. I would suggest to you that you do what you can to find out and talk to your adoptive parents to get the necessary information about your birth mother, at least, and do what you can to look her up. My attorney told me that it was in the best interest of the adoptive parents to let him know the truth always so he wouldn't resent them in the future, and I believe that wholeheartedly.

[ITstudent2006]

As I am an adopted kid, It is good to hear the other side of the story (iceprincess) although my parents were neglectful and unwilling to give me the best possible, I still know they know what they did was wrong.

Although I realize this I also was not and probably never will be interested in knowing what happened to them and where they are now!

It's good to talk about this and get a person's opinion such as your own! Thank You!