[anthony1222]

So these last couple months have been some of the roughest. Mid-october I got broken up with after 10 months with the girl who took my virginity. Yea I'm a guy and ik its not supposed to be a big deal or w/e but it kind of was for me.
So I started dating and talking to people soon after the break-up, I didn't really have feeligns for any of them I just wanted to go out and see who was out there and all, nbd.
Well then I started to get interested and for some reason I got shot down twice in a row. One girl apparently liked me but "lost that connection" and the other just stopped all contact with me for no reason.
OK like I said I wasn't terribly attached so they were more just hits to my ego than anything big. But keep in mind I still wasn't completely over my ex.
I'm not big on the whole meeting people online but this was different. A few days ago on myspace I just get this message from some girl, not going to use names, but I didn't know her previously. She was VERY attractive so I figured id talk to her and see where it goes. We talked non-stop for two straight days after that. Then last night we were on the phone until like 2 am. Here's the problem that I need advice on:
She said she didn't understand it because we've still never even met but she really liked me. And I tell you, as weird as it sounds, I was falling for her like a ton of bricks. I've never felt this way about anybody but she was just like, everything I've ever wanted. The girl you picture yourself with in your dreams but you figure you'll never meet and HERE SHE WAS. And omg she liked me too. I was seriously happier than id ever been, and my ex? Well lets just say she was the furthest from my mind she's ever been. And I tell you if anythign good happened it was that I'm now totally over my ex lol.
OK so everything SEEMS all good, right? NOPE. She asks me if I'm a virgin, I'm honest so I say no. she tells me she is. Then says that she has a good feeling ill be the one to take it. To which I had to say-i think we should wait...
Then she got RLY short with me, saying that she was tired and had to go.
Then she texts me saying she doesn't think it will work out.
I start pleading with her not too.
She told me I'm a sweetheart and ill find somebody and to just forget about her and delete her number...
I don't know what to do.
Obvs I don't want to be like a freak and talk to her if she doesn't want to
But I don't know if you understand that this isn't just "some girl."
The rest of the ones I dated don't even hold I candle to this girl. I know we didn't date but I don't want to lose her, uk?
HELP!
WHAT WENT WRONG?
WHAT DO I DO NOW?
IS IT OVER FOR GOOD??
If I ever needed advice, now's the time.

[talaniman]

From your own experiences already, you should know better than to lead with your heart, and not your head.

That advice may also help you from getting so attached so fast to any one thats says hello to you.

The same with your online chat partner, she was looking for a hook up, and you didn't fit the bill, because you didn't pick up on her virgin comment. It was a veiled invitation for sex, not a real anything else.

Better learn to go slower, be less needy, and pay closer attention where your heart is leading you.