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WhenItRains · Jan 3, 2009, 10:39 AM

Recently, he's been talking to me more than usual, so I'm thinking something's weird

Then a few days ago, out of nowhere, he messages me on MSN that he's going to buy me a late Christmas present. I tell him that I don't want one and he replies saying "Too bad :)" then signs off.

The day after that my friends planned to go skating so I went.
I met him there and he was holding something. It was the present
So, when he tried to give me the present I told him that I didn't want a present and went skating.
While I was skating I never knew he stuffed the present into my backpack and left.
After skating I took the present out of my backpack and asked my best friend why did he give me a present?
And she answered by saying "He likes you."
But I thought she was joking so I told her "I don't think he likes me that way." and asked "Now I need to give him a present. What should I give him?"

Two days ago I went to her house because she wanted to show me something.
It was a conversation history of her and him.
My friend asked him what he wanted and he replied
"I think i like -my name- but i don't like -my name-"
Then
"i told -my name- that i want only ONE thing but i'll tell her at a certain time"
So my friend replied with "u want her? (:"
Then he wrote "wow you're good D:"

Now I'm all weirded out because he said he "wants" me for Christmas
I just like him as a friend
And he doesn't know that I know what he wrote to my friend.
I feel awkward talking to him now.
Yeahh :\ What should I do?

ja77 · Jan 3, 2009, 11:19 AM

Sorry your post was a little confusing, but lets see.

You need to be honest and let this other person no that you have no feelings towards them other than being friends.

Regards the IM's you could always block them and I'm sure that would send a clear signal.

N0help4u · Jan 3, 2009, 03:03 PM

You need to tell him you like him only as a friend.
My guess is he thinks you are playing hard to get.

JBeaucaire · Jan 3, 2009, 04:46 PM

Do not give him anything in return.

Thank him for the gift. Tell him it was "cute" or something else non-romantic. Then ask him what he thinks of this other boy you're interested in. That should let him know where he stands with you.

Do not do anything TOWARD or against him. Do nothing in that regard. You do not need to actively hurt or push him away, simply do not respond to romantic overtures, and let him hear you talk about boys you ARE interested in.

LoveLifeBeHappy · Jan 4, 2009, 10:20 AM

I totally agree with all the posts here, they're the right thing to do.

WhenItRains · Jan 4, 2009, 03:21 PM

I rejected him.

Now he's making a big deal out of it
It makes me angry because of it

On MSN he told my friend he's cutting himself

And he dragged some people we know into the problem.

ja77 · Jan 4, 2009, 03:24 PM

On MSN he told my friend he's cutting himself

Advise his parents and maybe the school counselor about this.

And he dragged some people we know into the problem.

Real friends will stay out of it.

JBeaucaire · Jan 4, 2009, 05:54 PM

Never protect someone from self-abusive behavior. Send the links to the web-pages to authorities in his life and put it out of your mind.

For the most part, this stuff is meant to guilt you into giving someone what they want. The world doesn't work that way, so don't fall for it.

Be honest, stay honest, and when someone responds to your honesty with threats of self-violence, pass the threats on to someone who DOES deal with these things, and get back to your life.

You have enough to deal with.