[Edie101]

Am the very proud and very happy new Mum of our first child, a little boy called Daniel James, 3 weeks old as yesterday - now as happy with him as I am (had 24 hours of weeping and wailing two days post-section and am hoping that's it for the 'baby blues') has anybody had any similar experiences of missing being actually pregnant still? I find myself subconciously planning the next for a.s.a.p. because I loved bieng pregnant so much and I miss my 'Bump', even if he is glorious on the outside too lol

[aqua@home]

I can tell you I have been through this. Just keep in mind that you can have more and try to enjoy him here while you can. I loved being pregnant, unfortunately to be pregnant means you actually have to have a baby... LOL.

Seriously, I know it can be hard. I think a lot of women enjoy being pregnant so you are not alone. Please don't allow yourself to get too down about this. If you think you are experiencing a prolonged period of post-partum depression, please get some help. It would only benefit you and your family.

[J_9]

Oh, boy Edie, I do know where you are coming from!! My oldest is almost 20 and my youngest is 4. I have had 4 children in all and I loved every second of pregnancy. However, I cannot have any more due to a cancer that spreads hormonally.

Just remember you can have more, like Aqua said.

I would prefer to call this the baby-blues instead of post-partum depression unless you cry, get angry, or want nothing to do with your baby. Then I would consider post-partum depression. It may be a good idea to discuss this with your doctor next time you take the baby in for a check-up. Pediatricians do deal with this on a larger scale than most people know.

I see that you think about planning for the next one a.s.a.p. but I want you to know that is not healthy for your body. It is recommended that a woman try and wait at least 2 years before conceiving again. That will throw your hormones even more out of whack then they are already. My oldest 2 were 18 months apart and I had worse baby-blues with the second than I did with the first or even third (which was 8 years later).

Please talk to your doc at your next appointment about your concerns.

[Myth]

I just also want to add that your next pregnancy is going to be a lot different than this one. I had a wonderful pregnancy with my first and then a not so wonderful with my second, This is my third pregnancy and it couldn't be more different in all ways than my first two. I have double of everything this time around because I'm expecting twins. I worry a lot about ppd after they're born because of the homonal differences. Enjoy your baby now cause in a few weeks your going to wonder what happened to your little bundle of joy as he's tearing through your house and you can barely keep up.

[Chery]

I'm so glad this subject came up.
I had my 'baby' 29 years ago. I carried her for 10 months because I did not contract on my own, and the doctors did not know this. So after being induced.. there she was.

During my pregnancy, I was as happy as a bug in a rug, I was carrying inside me, a little wonder that was ALL MINE.. It was my responsibility, my joy, and I really did not want to 'share' this bundle with anyone. I read to her, I sang to her, I massaged my tummy and wished I'd never, ever have to give this up.

Once she was born, I felt a little sad because now I had to share her with the rest of the world, but also had to protect her from a lot more. While she was inside me, she had 24/7 full-time protection. But, as aqua says... we actually have to have the baby.

If this is somewhat how you probably feel, then you'll do just fine, as I'm sure all we Moms feel this way at one time or another.

There are however, some women (I've heard) that are perpetually pregnant. Not because they want children, but they get so much attention during the pregnancy that it is a type of 'addiction'. These are women who don't have much self-worth and only feel they get positive acknowledgment this way. I'm sure you've heard or read about a few of these poor women.


From what you wrote, you probably miss the closeness, movement, and joy beneath your heart - but it's now in your arms and needs you even more. Let your body heal, and give this baby at least a good year of unconditional attention before you have to share yourself - that's what I would do.


Happy Parenting, and lots of luck dear.

[valinors_sorrow]

Don't know a thing since all I've ever had... is the furry variety of "kids" LOL but I would like to say...

CONGRATULATIONS!

[aqua@home]

Val's post brings up another thing. Having a baby growing inside of you, etc. is truly a blessing that some people never get to experience. You are lucky that you were able to enjoy yours like you did.

[Wicca_moon_03]

I know how you feel. I have a baby that's 3 months old now and I miss being pregnant so much. May be its because my pregnancy was so symptomless but I just miss the feeling. I loved feeling the firm little spot in my stomach, the little butterfly feeling with kicking and the cute rhythmic jumping of his hiccups. As sick as it is, I actually miss being in the hospital and giving birth as well. I can't wait until I can get pregnant again, but not until my baby gets older =) that's another thing I think would be interesting is to be a surrogate mother, being pregnant for those who cant. That way you could be a blessing to someone else and get to experience pregnancy as well. I just realize that it will be hard to give up a baby that you carried for 9-10 months, the same as adoption.

[Mommy2juliana]

Ahhh... I feel the same way. I have a daughter that will be 7 months on August 3rd. She is such a joy to have. I have missed being pregnant since a little after her birth. Though I do miss being pregnant, I just want another baby. I love kids and I plan to have at least 2 more. I can't wait to see Juliana as a big sister and my fiancé as a Daddy. (He's not Jul's biological Daddy, but has been her daddy since she was 3 months old). I can't wait for our little family to grow! :)