I think I'm being used

hvymtl291 · Dec 26, 2008, 01:46 PM

So me and this girl had been flirting back and forth for 6 months and then decide to get together. We spend pretty much the first three days together and it was great we both had a lot of fun together. We would talk on the phone about nothing for the first couple days. Then the only time she would call me is for me to get something for her. We where suppose to spend time together today... she changed the plans to hang out with her friends... and when she called me I was expecting it to be just to talk to me but its for a ride and for me to get something for her. I feel that I'm being used, am I?

ja77 · Dec 26, 2008, 01:49 PM

You need to have an open talk with this person and tell them the way you feel.

You need to let her know that you are not there too be pushed around and run her errands for her.

My advise is always to go with the feeling in your belly, this has always helped me out along the road.

hvymtl291 · Dec 26, 2008, 01:58 PM

Originally Posted by ja77

You need to have an open talk with this person and tell them the way you feel.

You need to let her know that you are not there too be pushed around and run her errands for her.

My advise is always to go with the feeling in your belly, this has always helped me out along the road.

The feeling in my belly is that I'm falling for her, and I have been since before we "were official" I geuss would be how to say it. I don't mind doing things for her but I don't like the fact that that is the only time she acts like she wants anything todo with me now:(

marriaget · Dec 26, 2008, 02:03 PM

Talk to her, maybe show up at her house to hang out, make more plans.. y don't u ask her to do things for u too? Ha, you figure it out.

ja77 · Dec 26, 2008, 02:07 PM

Originally Posted by hvymtl291

the feeling in my belly is that im falling for her, and i have been since befor we "were official" i geuss would be how to say it. i dont mind doing things for her but i dont like the fact that that is the only time she acts like she wants anything todo with me now:(

This is why you need to talk to her and have a good open talk, explain the way you feel without sounding needy, explain you like doing things with her and would maybe like to hang with her as well.

It is always good to have time together in a relationship, but it is also important to keep your own I.D to and do things alone in alone time to.

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