[theov]

I made a judgment error by insisting my lady friend attend a HIV (AIDS) awareness training session. She actually did not wanted to go however it was compulsory and I forced her. She was hugely embarrassed and it is my fault (her words). I had to raise my voice and she was really upset with me. We had a good relationship, and I truly believed that our friendship was stronger than this. We used to talk about everything, now for the past 3 weeks I am ignored. I really care about this person and yes I apologized for everything I did and said, but alas no forgiveness.

Theo

[thoughtiwastheman]

Let me ask you something. Is this 'lady friend" someone that you are looking to get serious with? I'm confused and I'm sure she was too if she is just a friend. First and foremost you never insist someone do anything against their will. Now, if you guys were thinking about becoming serious and being monogamous with one another I would see your point but yet and still that does not give you the right to force anything on her. I have "lady friends" myself and besides hanging out with them and doing whatever comes to mind, I do not under any circumstances put any obligations upon them. Do you like this girl but just afriad to admit it, or do you just want to get booty with an peace of mind? If you just want to get some you may be confusing her by asking her to do something that only partners in serious relationships would consider doing for one anotehr. I think its great that people practice safe sex and are aware of their status but it is still an option and thats why you should always play it on the safe side and use protection. I think that she does know that she's just a "lady friend" and finds it weird that you would go as far as to raise your voice and insist that she goes to this HIV class. What were, and what is your intention with this girl is the question you should be asking. If you're not seriously involved with her, she has no commitment towards you either to educate herself if she doesn't want to. Perhaps she's already educated on the matter but does not feel connected with you enough to share that information. Does this help in trying to understand why she is ignoring you and not accepting your apology?

[talaniman]

Way to go, you ran her off. Now leave her alone or you make it worse. You're a bully.

[450donn]

Why would you insist that she attend an aid awareness seminar? Are you HIV positive? Does she practice unsafe sex? Why would you make her go to something that she clearly did not or had no interest in attending?
Yes, you blew it big time, now leave her alone and move on.