[roxypox]

So a friend of mine has been seeing this guy and she tossed me a pickle the other day.
I don't know all the specifics, so please bear with me!

But he told her that he has had a really nice time so far, and he would love to continue seeing her, but he wanted her to know that he is really fresh out of a relationship (like a little over a month ago), so he isn't ready for a new relationship right now and he hoped she'd understand.

When she told me I had no idea what to make of it (LOL I'm really hopeless in this area), but what are you guys take on it?

Thanks ;)

[N0help4u]

That he doesn't want a rebound relationship and he wants time to himself to get over his last relationship before he feels he can move on.

[roxypox]

Do you think it's a request to just stay friends and hang out? Or an easy way to let her down?

[BlackVY]

I think its an easy let down... but it is possible he cares about her and doesn't want her to be the rebound

[roxypox]

Okay. Thank you both. :)

I haven't met the guy and they've only had some dates over the last couple of weeks, my first feeling was that he just want o stay friends or possibly that he does like her he just needs time to heal\doesn't want to make her a rebound.

[roxypox]

Update;

I told my friend what your take on it was... and she think it sounded reasonable.(

But she wondered... for her sake... should she back out and break all contact? I would have, but that's just me... I would totally go into protective mode and try to shield myself, but I thought it might be a good idea to ask someone else of what they would have done!

What would you have done?

[liz28]

If she continues to see him she should control her feelings for him so that she won't fall for him because he already told her up front that he's not looking for nothing serious.

He might change his mind later down the road or he might not. There could be many different endings.

Meanwhile, if I was her, I would date other people because he isn' her man. If anything, they're just friends that enjoy each other company. So tell her to get out there and mangle and she might find someone that wants the same thing as her.

[roxypox]

Thanks Liz :) I'll do that!

You are right, hehe I like it when people give me there side, b\c I can be a bit extreme at times... so I'm not going to give her my advice, but your :)

[talaniman]

They can hangout as friends, just don't get carried away, and invest the farm on him, if you know what I mean, as she is free to date anyone whenever she chooses. It should be about having fun, and not trying to find a life partner.

Whatever happen to just having a good time with someone? Is two dates love, or what? Darn, I must be getting old.

[roxypox]

talaniman; you are right, it really is about having fun with someone... and we are worry worts, so your not getting old, its we who are neurotic :p.

Hehe as for life partner, well I don't know about her, but that comes if it comes and when it comes.

[roxypox]

LOL!
Kids are funny that way, they have such a different perspective on things. A kid at work though that I was 20... even though he knew I was 25, but he asked one of my co-workers, he's 22, if he was 35... seeing as he had a bared and a mustache.