[glitche]

I have a problem I have had with 1 of my past girlfriends and now my current girlfriend
(that I absolutely love to death and plan on marrying)

Please help!

To start I know everything about my current girlfriend and this means who she has been with and extreme details of what she has done with them... for one main reason

Because it turns me on when she tells me about what she has done with past partners

This entails a very large problem which is... it kills me to think about it..

I don't know if it is the pain of the thought of her with another person or the excitement of her being with them, but I can assure you it brings in both feelings the excitement and unbearable pain in a mixture that leaves me confused and drives me utterly insane day after day month after month

I try to tell myself that I would be a hypocrite to be mad or judge her for it because I know I have done the same if not worse..

As I write this I feel stupid for getting upset about it at all but I feel the problem acts in a cycle.. when I think of it I get aroused.. and after I pleasure myself to it I feel rage against her for doing it.. then I get aroused again about thinking what she did.. so its like a never ending thing.. I try to stop thinking about it but things she says me reminds me of incidents as well as other things.

Breaking up is not an option I'm willing to settle on because I know even if we did break up and I did get past the heart ache and found another girl the same problems would come up I love my girlfriend I don't want to loose her for something as stupid as this..

I have talked to her about it and she just acts like its not a big deal because one day I'm telling her to tell me " what he did to you" and the next I'm complaining that it bothers me.. she knows it hurts me and she thinks I'm crazy but she says I'm just going to have to get over it because she got over mine..

I just wish I could get away from it as easy as she does... I know what I have told her kills her she just lets it go easier..

I feel as it is an addiction... we are going to pre-marital counseling but I'm scared to bring up the subject because we aren't yet comfortable with our counselor yet

Any Advice please?

[xxariesxx]

I think you're taking all of the right steps here. You have been open and honest with her and yourself and already going to pre-marital counseling to deal with things. Just keep going to your counselor and soon you will feel comfortable enough to talk to him/her about it. Try to not be embarrassed or afraid of what he/she would think, they have heard every story in the book.

[glitche]

Thank you xxariesxx I always feel better right after we get out of his office and I can't wait to talk about it I know I can overcome it I've already overcame a bunch of other incidents its probably just a matter of time. Your right also with him hearing everything in the book he told us that a bunch of times the first time we visited him =DD

Thanks a lot xxAriesXX