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    Dec 13, 2008, 04:05 PM
    Losing my faith
    All my life, I've questioned things, never thought id question god though, I just don't believe, I kind of don't want to believe, but its depressing, hearing about hell, because I know I'm going to die young, what can I do, to get back mt faith
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    Dec 13, 2008, 04:18 PM
    It's normal and natural to question your faith. Do you have any friends that go to your church? Try talking to them. Or contact your church's youth minister.

    Are you depressed in general? Why do you say you think you will die young?
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    Dec 13, 2008, 04:43 PM

    How much activity outside the house(and computer) do you do?

    The more one does outside the more life has its little surprises and it becomes interesting.

    I want to add a post for you to look at,it's about the children who grew up before the '80's

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...0s-230592.html

    Thought provoking isn't it?
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    Dec 13, 2008, 05:03 PM

    Well if you looked around you and counted your blessings I think your faith would be restored, but it takes work.

    Just like the negative thoughts that have creeped into your life and have started to snowball, the same can be true of positive thoughts; but it's a choice.

    Your negative thoughts are lies. You could as easily turn any one of them into a positive. I know the negative thoughts seem like the truth, and the positive ones seem like the lies; but if you understand that the negative ones are truly bull, then would it make sense to replace them with positive thoughts even if they were bull in your mind too? Think of the difference it would make.

    Positive thinking needs to become a habit, so that you have positive thoughts squirreling around your brain instead of negative ones.

    So make a gratitude list (and I mean write it down) of 5 things you are grateful for; and you don't even have to truly believe them, just do it. Do this everyday for 3 weeks, and if it doesn't improve your outlook and restore some of your faith I will refund your misery.

    In addition, any time a negative thought comes into your mind, simply say no, I refuse to believe this and find something positive to say about yourself, or the situation even if it doesn't feel right for the time being.

    Positive equals love; God, faith, hope, etc. do not exist in our perception without love. God disappears from our sight when we choose to stay in the negative and hopelessness.

    God gave you the right to choose, and he's not going to do all the work, he wants you to seek Him. With the practical examples I've given above, I am sure you will be on the road to restoring your faith in no time.

    If you are a praying person, add prayer to the mix. Don't know which prayer, just recite the Lord's Prayer daily or more if it helps; that will do for a start I am sure it will bring a positive result.

    Good luck and God Bless.
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    Dec 14, 2008, 11:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by jjwoodhull View Post
    It's normal and natural to question your faith. Do you have any friends that go to your church? Try talking to them. Or contact your church's youth minister.

    Are you depressed in general? Why do you say you think you will die young?
    No in general I am not depressed, but I do have a form of clinical depression, but it doesn't really bother me none
    I sday I will die young because I used to smoke, a lot, and it also has to do with my plans for the future
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    Dec 14, 2008, 11:55 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by AManWithNoName View Post
    it also has to do with my plans for the future
    And what are your plans for the future?
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    Dec 14, 2008, 11:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    And what are your plans for the future?
    College, then criminal justice, 5 years of swat, then blackwater
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    Dec 14, 2008, 12:13 PM
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    college, then criminal justice, 5 years of swat, then blackwater
    To be accepted by Blackwater, you will have to work hard in school and brush up on your spelling, English grammar, etc. Blackwater doesn't accept just anyone who walks in the door.

    And by the way, Blackwater would be the SAFEST group to be in because you'd be well trained for any situation and would have the support of the entire group.
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    Dec 14, 2008, 12:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    To be accepted by Blackwater, you will have to work hard in school and brush up on your spelling, English grammar, etc. Blackwater doesn't accept just anyone who walks in the door.

    And btw, Blackwater would be the SAFEST group to be in because you'd be well trained for any situation and would have the support of the entire group.
    I know all that, but I still have a feeling, inside, that I'm going to die young, my life seems like that pink floyd song, time
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    Dec 14, 2008, 12:25 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AManWithNoName View Post
    I know all that, but i still have a feeling, inside, that im gonna die young, my life seems like that pink floyd song, time
    How long are you going to let this depression and self pity keep you down?

    How much is too much?

    You don't seem to be thinking anything positive,when do you want that thinking to end?
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    Dec 14, 2008, 12:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AManWithNoName View Post
    I know all that, but i still have a feeling, inside, that im gonna die young, my life seems like that pink floyd song, time
    I'm guessing you are about 14-15 years old. Right?
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    Dec 14, 2008, 12:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    I'm guessing you are about 14-15 years old. Right?
    15, 16 in may
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    Dec 14, 2008, 01:13 PM

    You mentioned a clinical depression. Are you taking meds for it, and/or are you seeing a counselor who helps you set weekly goals and achieve them?
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:00 PM

    A few years back, I started doubting my faith in God. I even wondered for a while why I was still alive. Then it hit, I am alive because God has deemed that I have a purpose for being alive. That is all. I tried to figure out what my purpose was, and I failed. I learned that it was to help people. That I believe is my calling in life. I did not uncover this idea by reading the bible or attending church. I meerly talked to some of my friends and tried to look deep within myself to figure out who God wants me to be. Now, I still don't go to Church regularly, but I am part of a bible study group at my school, and it helps me a lot, especially when it seems that all the chips are stacked against me. Find what you love to do, and see how God influenced that. That, my friend, is a good place to start.
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by godsbabygirl267 View Post
    A few years back, I started doubting my faith in God. I even wondered for a while why I was still alive. Then it hit, I am alive because God has deemed that I have a purpose for being alive. That is all. I tried to figure out what my purpose was, and I failed. I learned taht it was to help people. That i believe is my calling in life. I did not uncover this idea by reading the bible or attending church. I meerly talked to some of my friends and tried to look deep within myself to figure out who God wants me to be. Now, I still don't go to Church regularly, but I am part of a bible study group at my school, and it helps me alot, especially when it seems that all the chips are stacked against me. Find what you love to do, and see how God influenced that. That, my friend, is a good place to start.
    I just don't believe that god has a plan for every one, I have a very hard time belivin that
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by KBC View Post
    How long are you going to let this depression and self pity keep you down?

    How much is too much?

    You don't seem to be thinking anything positive,when do you want that thinking to end?
    Thank you for replying to this post,I seem to think you don't want to feel better at all,but are just wallowing in self pity.

    I hope someday you see this activity isn't going anywhere and get the help you need.
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by KBC View Post
    Thank you for replying to this post,I seem to think you don't want to feel better at all,but are just wallowing in self pity.

    I hope someday you see this activity isn't going anywhere and get the help you need.
    Wallowing in self pitty? I isn't no nancy boy who stays home in his bed and cries, I play guitar, I kayak, I hunt, I play paintball, I listen to ac dc
    I just have a hard time belivin in god, and that worries me
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:19 PM
    This might sound corny to you - but last night I watched the movie "It's A Wonderful Life". It's a good reminder that we are all here for a reason and that the lives of our friends and family would be unrecognizable without our influence.

    Of course it's hard to know our "purpose" or why we are here. But we are here for a reason. You have so much still ahead of you... Life brings great things to us when we least expect it. Who knows what can happen for you in the future... Maybe you'll be a father one day, find a job you love and are good at, fall in love and get married, write a great song, see the world... And God's hand is in all of that.
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AManWithNoName View Post
    All my life, ive questioned things, never thought id question god though, i just dont belive, i kind of dont want to belive, but its depressing, hearing about hell, because i know im gonna die young, what can i do, to get back mt faith
    Your words:,because I know I'm going to die young,

    This is self defeating thinking.The more you believe this,the more you shape your life around achieving this goal.

    Why try to do ANYTHING at all,heck,your going to die young,right?

    What does trying to find faith have to do with this?

    Have you looked at the other posts you have made in here?Self pity and contempt are all throughout those.

    While I see the activity being a great step forward in finding a solution to this,you seem to enjoy this pity party,it has become your shield against being responsible for any effort to try.

    Make sense?
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    Dec 14, 2008, 05:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by KBC View Post
    Your words:,cuz i know im gonna die young,

    This is self defeating thinking.The more you believe this,the more you shape your life around achieving this goal.

    Why try to do ANYTHING at all,heck,your going to die young,right?

    What does trying to find faith have to do with this?

    Have you looked at the other posts you have made in here?Self pity and contempt are all throughout those.

    While I see the activity being a great step forward in finding a solution to this,you seem to enjoy this pity party,it has become your shield against being responsible for any effort to try.

    make sense?
    I do kind of take myself pity, and push it so it doesn't seem to be there until it festers, and yes I do use it as a shield, a shield to keep people who try to read me from figuring me out, but your yourn try ing to make it seem like I don't try to find faith, hell, I've read the bible, I've been to church, I prayed, I did all this to get my faith back, but nothing worked

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