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    Dec 9, 2008, 02:16 AM
    How do you see this going?
    Friend of mine asked me for advice on his current situation,

    He met a girl out last weekend who is currently in a 6 year relationship, they kissed and went back to her place and nothing happened just talked and he went home, she texted him the end of week last weekend and they met up Friday night and then again saturady night, she then freaked out Sunday saying she was afraid it would get out, that she don't want to hurt anyone and when she has all her crap sorted with her current bfriend and break it off after his exams she would like to see him again and talk...

    What do ye make of it?

    I told him he would want to be careful..
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    Dec 9, 2008, 02:26 AM

    I would back right away from that to be honest. She is cheating and lying to her current boyfriend. Cheating doesn't have to mean having sex. She is deceiving her boyfriend, and leading him on. She isn't being honest, and if they will do it with you, they will do it to you. Take it from a girl, who knows how other girls act sometimes. I would say this girl is bad news, unless your friend wants to be hurt.

    You are not only right to tell him to be careful, you are correct in warning him.
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    Dec 9, 2008, 02:34 AM

    I agree, if a women is willing to cheat and mislead their current love interest how long until your friend is in the same position that the current BF is in?

    If he wants to keep his sanity intact then I would steer clear.
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    Dec 9, 2008, 02:35 AM

    I would refuse to let any of my mates be a chump. With that said, I would advise you to steer your friend clear of this chick. She respects neither her boyfriend or your friend. Danger danger.

    Friends don't let friends become chumps. Introduce him to some of your girlfriends if he's jonesin that bad. Just never your sister, if you have one.
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    Dec 9, 2008, 03:42 AM
    Now she says its over in her head with a while and she is just waiting for the right time after his exams to dump her current bfriend, do you she her coming looking for my friend or is she just playing games?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 03:47 AM

    She's playing games! Does your friend really want someone who would be sneaky like that? Bottom line, she is still lying to her current boyfriend. If she'll lie to him, she'll lie to your friend in time also. If she was an honest and trustworthy person, she would have left her boyfriend instead of getting involved with someone else first... period.
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    Dec 9, 2008, 04:03 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by starbuck8 View Post
    She's playing games! Does your friend really want someone who would be sneaky like that? Bottom line, she is still lying to her current bf. If she'll lie to him, she'll lie to your friend in time also. If she was an honest and trustworthy person, she would have left her bf instead of getting involved with someone else first...period.
    Yeah and now she has cut contact with my friend so she can sort her own crap out first and she says in a few weeks she will contact him and they will def talk?

    What is she at?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 04:16 AM

    She wants out of one relationship, to jump right into another. There is a slim to none chance of it working. A girl that is that willing to jump from a 6 yr relationship right into another has got serious issues. If I was your friend, I would decline, and find someone without all of that baggage. That is an accident waiting to happen. That is about as plain as I can put it.
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    Dec 9, 2008, 04:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by starbuck8 View Post
    She wants out of one relationship, to jump right into another. There is a slim to none chance of it working. A girl that is that willing to jump from a 6 yr relationship right into another has got serious issues. If I was your friend, I would decline, and find someone without all of that baggage. That is an accident waiting to happen. That is about as plain as I can put it.
    Thanks for your advice, I told him I don't think she will be back, however he seems that she is pretty keen on talking when she sorts herself out? What do you think?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 08:16 AM
    Do you see this girl coming back for more or is she finished with him?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 08:21 AM
    How do you see this going?
    Friend of mine met this girl last weekend, the same girl is in a six year relationship but says she wants out and its been over in her head with a while...

    They kissed and met up again this weekend, but now she wants to chill until she sorts out her current mess and will be onto him once she is sorted in a few weeks...

    What does this mean?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 08:28 AM
    She's very confused and think you should tell him to steer clear. Issues from one relationship tend to spill into another if you jump into a new one so quick. She sounds like she's a serial monogamist
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    Dec 9, 2008, 08:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Irishgirl View Post
    Shes very confused and think you should tell him to steer clear. Issues from one relationship tend to spill into another if you jump into a new one so quick. She sounds like she's a serial monogamist
    And what does that mean exactly?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 03:50 PM

    Basically it's someone who likes to jump from relationship to relationship.

    But seriously this is like a plane making a trip from L.A. to France with a half a tank of gas and no pit stops. Crash n Burn...
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    Dec 9, 2008, 03:59 PM

    It means she wanted to play around to see if the grass is greener and then she got afraid and he should just forget her at least until she is completely out of this relationship
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    Dec 10, 2008, 02:09 PM

    Seems to me like she already has someone serious she's not willing to give up but isn't completely pleased so is sleeping around with your friend on the side. She probably is getting a little more busy and doesn't have time for your friend right now. She'l come back to him when she has more free time to screw around on her boyfriend.

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