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hillary31 · Dec 4, 2008, 09:41 PM

My son freaked out tonight, threw the chair across the room, called me names, a month ago , he freaked out called me every name in the book and started punching me.. seems he' s good for a few months, then he freaks out.. he's being homeschooled right now. But he needs to get back into school as sitting in the house 24-7 is not healthy.. he gets mad and I'm at the point I don't even want to be around him, I've been tempted to call the cops, but I'm scared, I don't know what to expect.. he's remourseful and then I can't accept his apology right away, and it just escalates, when he feels rejection from me, of course I blame myself for all of this, single parent, never a father figure ever, I have overindulged him in a lot of ways. Help. I don't know what to do.. we walk on eggshells, my daughter and I, I just don't know what to do. We went to counsellor once, and the counsellors first words were well he just started yelling at him, my son cried and left the room. I just don't know what to do

liz28 · Dec 4, 2008, 10:10 PM

You have 3 options:
1)call the cops because your child should'nt be hitting you. She shouldn't be living in fear because after all he is the child.

2) Get him into the hospital so he can get evaluated and this way he can't get up and leave.

3) Tried counselling again.

Your son have some anger issues that needs to resolve. He is being respectful to you by cursing at you and hitting you. It's time for tough love because if he was my child he wouldn't even be in jail or I would be in jail for laying him out.

Don't accept this abuse because it will only get worse. What would stop him from pulling a weapon on you? Stand up mom and don't allow this. Never should a parent be scared of their child, it should be the other way around.

He knows right from wrong because if he can do this to you he can do it to someone on the streets and the next person wouldn't care about him being a teenager.

Your son might be bipolar and needs help so I really suggest you get him to your nearest hospital before something else happen but don't be a victim and spoiling him wouldn't turn him this way. I am sorry you're going through this.

hillary31 · Dec 4, 2008, 10:20 PM

My son saw his dad once in 12 years, me, my daughter and him living as a family all those years, no other man in their lives, what would the cops do if I calle dthem? I don't want to lose my son.. I'm scared, I'm hoping him getting back into school would be the first positive step.. is it hopeless for him now? I feel I have destroyed his life, and I feel he will always be that, way.. I got rid of his father all those years ago, because he was the same way, but my son was 2.5 when I got rid of him because I wanted to break the cycle, and here it backfired on me.. I am on point of a breakdown and don't know how much longer I can deal with this.. he's been out of school for a year now. It's not good

liz28 · Dec 4, 2008, 10:33 PM

Don't feel like you destroy his life because you got yourself and your kids away from a bad situation. You did the right thing and I glad you remove yourself from an abusive situation, that took courage and many woman don't have that and stay.

I think that your son needs help. He have issues and maybe with counseling he will be able to deal with his issues but it needs to address now. You already tried counseling and he walked out but maybe if he put in a place where he can't walk out it might help. He doesn't get it soon he might really hurt you.

If you call the cops he would get arrested and put through the system. The outcome can vary but I am sorry if he put his hands on you don't be afraid to call 911.

I really think your son might be bipolar or have adhd but only a doctor can diagnose him with that. He knows his behavior is wrong because afterwards he apologize and he knows he can get away with it because nothing is done about it.

Also, you might want to contact your local precient and see if they have any scare straight programs available.

DoulaLC · Dec 5, 2008, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by liz28

You have 3 options:
1)call the cops because your child should'nt be hitting you. She shouldn't be living in fear because after all he is the child.

2) Get him into the hospital so he can get evaluated and this way he can't get up and leave.

3) Tried counselling again.

Your son have some anger issues that needs to resolve. He is being respectful to you by cursing at you and hitting you. It's time for tough love because if he was my child he wouldn't even be in jail or I would be in jail for laying him out.

Don't accept this abuse because it will only get worse. What would stop him from pulling a weapon on you? Stand up mom and don't allow this. Never should a parent be scared of their child, it should be the other way around.

He knows right from wrong because if he can do this to you he can do it to someone on the streets and the next person wouldn't care about him being a teenager.

Your son might be bipolar and needs help so I really suggest you get him to your nearest hospital before something else happen but don't be a victim and spoiling him wouldn't turn him this way. I am sorry you're going through this.

Had to spread the rep, but I agree. This is not normal behaviour and you can't allow yourself to be put at risk. When he is in a calm state, discuss the situation with him and take the necessary steps to get him some help.

Justwantfair · Dec 5, 2008, 09:57 AM

What would you do if he were to start hitting your daughter.

If you do not take some action, he will never deal with these issues and will probably become someone's abusive husband someday.

N0help4u · Dec 5, 2008, 05:06 PM

I see this behavior a lot in boys.
With my son it was mainly that he resented me because his father was never there for him since I was divorced. He is taking his anger out on you and anybody he can.
I agree with everything everybody has said but want to add
Besides getting an evaluation also consider changing his diet and be consistent in everything with him.

Try reading these two books and see if they help any

The Crazymakers by Carol Simontachhi
Brain Allergies by Dr Philpott

Also some are linking lack of Omega fatty acid in kids to behavior and the way they perceive things All About Kids: Omega-3 fatty acid and kids brain health

LoveLifeBeHappy · Dec 31, 2008, 03:26 PM

How old is he?

There's always a way to stop him but finding out what that way is is the hard part. You should definitely try the police, it may not work, but go for it.
Show him your true feelings and don't cover up anything.

My oldest is 15 and about 2 years ago he freaked out on me. I panicked and cried. He's never done it again.

hillary31 · Dec 31, 2008, 03:29 PM

Hi there, he just turned 14.. I have an appt with him at the doctors in two days, this is the start of getting our life back, the doctor says he has anxiety and other issues, and say s he definitley can help him.. what did your son do two years ago?

LoveLifeBeHappy · Jan 1, 2009, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by hillary31

hi there, he just turned 14.. i have an appt with him at the doctors in two days, this is the start of getting our life back, the doctor says he has anxiety and other issues, and say s he definitley can help him.. what did your son do two years ago?

That's good.
And it was late at night and he want to go out and I said no. He just flipped, started swearing at me and throwing things about but never at me although he did threaten to. He stopped when my husband came to see what was happening. He was never like that before, I was so shocked I couldn't say anything. He wouldn't talk to me for a few days and in the end he appologised. I've always thought he may have been drinking but I really don't know.