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    painfulll Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 28, 2008, 03:23 PM
    Should I try again?
    He broke up with me all of a sudden 3months ago. I had tried to explain the misunderstandings but things were only getting worse and worse. I had to agree with him about "it's over"even though I didn't want it from the deep down, after that we never talked. (during the time I saw him online twice and said "hi" to him but no response). We had been in a long distance relationship. We both felt so right before the broke up. I couldn't accept the result mainly because of some misunderstandings and why he didn't even give us a chance to communicate. I thought over and over and I feel I still have strong feelings for him, so I tried to reconnect him by calling him after this long no speaking time last week, and he cut me off after he heard my voice and I called again but he didn't answer, so I left voice message and just said if we could talk sometimes. I acted cool but I was so hurt for his reaction. I feel so sad. Is this a sign that he already totally got over me or still another reasons there.
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    ChihuahuaMomma Posts: 7,378, Reputation: 608
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    Nov 28, 2008, 03:53 PM

    This is a sign that you need to give up and move on.

    If there are things that are still bugging you about the relationship that was, I have one suggestion. Write the most heartfelt letter. Say everything you want him to know about the relationship, your feelings, the breakup. Read it aloud to yourself, And then SHRED IT. Just writing the letter will make you feel tons better and hopefully give you closure. Things look different on paper and in words than in your head.

    Good Luck!
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    Nov 28, 2008, 04:00 PM

    Ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who made you feel the way you've felt. People who like themselves.. who truly love themselves... don't allow this type of person into their lives. Ok.. so there was no communication... well that probably hasn't changed in him in three months. Those are issues that will make any attempt to be back together almost impossible. No contact. Do NOT IM him anymore... do not look for him online.. do not call... nothing. Trust me on this. It's truly time to move on. Three months is a long time to heal... but every IM you send where he doesn't reply... erases all those months of healing.

    You are not alone in this pain... so many of us are feeling or have felt that... but remind yourself that this IS NOT the love of your life.

    A meaningful relationship brings meaning to life. Doesn't sound like this one did for you. Be strong! No contact !
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Nov 28, 2008, 04:40 PM

    Take the hint, and leave this guy alone, as he wants nothing to do with you whatsoever.

    Sorry for your loss, but it will get better, just not with him.

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