[Steelers08]

I thought I would try and talk about this on here to see if I can get this get this to
Make sense. Ok, I met this girl over the summer and we hit it off extremeley well right
Off the bat. Things were going great and we hung out all the time for about two months
And then she started acting very distant from there and now she pretty much is very
Shady toward me and ignores me with absolutely no explanation whatsoever. I know that I
Could take the hint and just I should just move on which I sort of have, but I just
Cannot get this girl out of my head! I feel like I can't be satisfied unless everything
Goes back to normal or she just tells me flat out that she doesn't want anything to do
With me. I have never felt this way about someone and this is causing me also to not be
Able to tell her how I feel. Also, the main reason I did not yet just take the hint is
Becase every once in a while now I will talk to her and she will come and hang out for
A night and we will have the greatest time and I think, OK now were going back to the
Way were again. Then as soon as I text/call her again after that its just one word
Answers and back to ignoring me most of the time. I want to add also that when me and
Her hung out we only made out (a lot) and did not go any farther than that. I wasn't
Pushing it becase I felt like (at the time) that I could have something real with this
Girl. My question is really how do I find out if there is really a chance with her or
At least for her to actually talk to me about things? My opinion is I need to do
Something because it was too great to not make the effort, just don't know how to go
About it lol. Or, do you think that she may just be that shallow and just can't deal
With telling me that she's not interested. I'm just confused and feel like crap about it
Along with waking up everyday thinking about her. I just never felt like this and just
Can't bring myself to comeout and tell her how I feel while she is acting like this.
Thanks for everyone's input!

[thadevilsadvocate]

You know how sometimes our instinct tells you not to do something or to go a certain place, because of that feeling you get? I think you need to go with your instinct here. She is just playing with your mind, and she only wants to do enough to get by. She wants to have one night that is great, and then not make any effort during the next week or so and then have another night that is great, because she wants to have you when she wants you, and the not have you when she doesn't. This is a game she is playing, and you need to get out of it. Like you said, this is too great not to make the effort... well that is right. However, she isn't making any kind of effort and she is just stringing you along, and believe me, this won't turn out good. She has you right where she wants you, and that doesn't turn out good in the end. You need to be a man and make your stand now and don't make yourself available for her. One of two things will happen... either she will start blowing up your phone with messages longer than one word or she won't text you at all... Let her go, and keep your dignity, before she has the chance to squash it instead.

[jakester]

Yeah, you have to have the courage to walk away because as devil's advocate put it, she is just playing with your mind. If she really loved you and cared for you in a way that is real, she wouldn't be doing these things to you. That's not love, my friend.

I think that you have to see if that way too or you will keep coming back and repeating the insanity... unless you are a closet S&M type. I doubt it, though. Don't sell yourself short and settle for this kind of relationship because you will never find what you are really looking.

[chuff]

I think you are so into her that she can get away with treating you like this. You said you'll have a great time, and then YOU try to communicate with her next. If you give her a good time, then get out of there and let her think about it. If she really had a good time, then let her come to you. Your attitude has to be on of, "I'm having a great time at at times and if you want to join me, then get ahold of me." The way you are doing this just comes off like your begging and that is not going to appeal to a woman who wants to be entertained.

[shovel20]

I feel you man I'm in the same boat as you I met this amazing girl we saw each other heaps then I told her how I felt and after that now she ignores me and then like a week l8r she asks me if I want to meet her at this bar. Then yeah ignores me again and everyone's wright.
I have to ignore her myself otherwise its going to eat me.