[surfskate7000]

I know what everyone says about letting go.
But I really love this man. And I don't imagine myself with a better partner.
We were together for a year, a year where I was a jealous person and he turned into a very impatient man. He'd yell and a couple of times he bruised my face. I know what you are thinking but I must admit I am a PSYCHO and I really pushed his buttons, from going through his phone to checking his email, not letting him go out etc. He left. We didn't see each other for 6 weeks, then I saw him again. This was May .It is October now. We see each other twice a week, and we keep to continue fighting, it is so much pain and drama its insane, I am exhausted. But I don't want to let him go, I see him and man... I don't want to victimize myself but... Today he came over and said I MUST let him go, that he has never been in this situation so has no clue how to act. It is very weird because he sent me an email saying we shouldn't argue next time just focus on making love, but then he comes over and says he can't have sex and nada... I understand his confussion... but... it hurts.

I really love him, and I know the best thing for me to do is to let him go, but I don't want to.
What can I do? What SHOULD I do? Do you think he is just playing games? Do you think he is suffering and confused too?

It is so hard to let go, to get close to someone who pushes you away. He said he loves me but it's not in love w me anymore, yet he keeps coming back...

^^basically I'm in that same situation, except switch the guy to a girl and no physical hurting.. everytime I want to let her go something fricken changes my mind and I can never go through with it, we went out for 10 months and never had sex because I felt like if we did then it would just be based off that because that's kind how it was with my past gfs...

[simoneaugie]

Let her go. Then you will be free. Once free, don't see her, don't fight with her, don't even communicate. Then you are free. Now, what type of man-woman friendship are you looking for, and why?