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    vikky1 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 21, 2008, 06:25 AM
    My girlfriend loves ex BF
    Hi all..
    This is vikky here.. the most unfortunate guy in this world. People I always wanted to love smone and marry that gal. I never wanted to ditch anybudy so I was searching the gal of my cast. Then I met one gal. I asked her do you have any boyreind. She told me I had . I again asked you had na,. rite now you don't.. she confirmed that.actually she once loved a guy madly and since the guy was not of his religion she left her.I thought she would love me.. she loved me but she always remebers her ex BF.. it hurts me.. n even I think she loves him more than me.. I many times felt this.. but I'm still with her because I can't leave her . I deem her as my wife and I will die if I have to leave her.. she also love me but she is very capricious. Sometimes she has proved that she loves him still but I kept quite because I can't leave her.. people even one day she told that she dreamt about her boyfriend and wanted to call him.. I said if you will call him I will get out of your life.. she said I will talk to him ( Ex BF).. now you people can see that how much she still loves him.. now what should I do..
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    Nov 21, 2008, 06:41 AM

    Break it off with her. Why would you want to be with someone who is not 100& committed to you? I have to admit, I didn't understand the first part of your post but after reading the whole thing I think I got the general idea.

    I don't know why you think you can't leave her. Are you afraid of being alone?
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    Nov 21, 2008, 09:11 AM

    If this was a movie this would be the point in time you would hear the warning sirens going off, telling you to GET OUT! Leave her man. And you will not die by not having her in your life. That is just plain ignorant to say. I know you love her, but she is still attached to her ex and is not ready for another relationship right now. You will be extremely unhappy if you stay with her, and you will probably open yourself up to more pain. Just try and think about yourself NOW! The writing is on the wall, it is up to you to read it.
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    Nov 22, 2008, 12:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ZoeMarie View Post
    Break it off with her. Why would you want to be with someone who is not 100& committed to you? I have to admit, I didn't understand the first part of your post but after reading the whole thing I think I got the general idea.

    I don't know why you think you can't leave her. Are you afraid of being alone?
    Dear.. the prob is that.. I have seen her love.. I mean./. We both shared a strong emotional feelings for each other.. she cares me.. she loves me.. I have dreamt my life with her and when I think she is leaving me and any other gal is taking her place in my heart I shiver and tremble.. I dun want to leave her cz I cant.. how I make her understand that how much I love her? N about her ex BF.. its not regular.. I mean sometimes she deeply miss him.. because that person was her first love..
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    Nov 22, 2008, 12:34 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    If this was a movie this would be the point in time you would hear the warning sirens going off, telling you to GET OUT! Leave her man. And you will not die by not having her in your life. That is just plain ignorant to say. I know you love her, but she is still attached to her ex and is not ready for another relationship right now. You will be extremely unhappy if you stay with her, and you will probably open yourself up to more pain. Just try and think about yourself NOW! The writing is on the wall, it is up to you to read it.
    Had it been like one sided love I would have left her. But its not like that..
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    Nov 23, 2008, 01:11 PM

    Why come to a help board and try to argue your point of undying love for each other? There is reality and what you WISHED were true. From what I'm understanding in your post is your on-board and she is still one foot on one off. It's her choice, if she goes back to the old BF let it go. If not then what's the problem?

    You won't die, with comments like these and the bad grammar and what not it makes me feel like this is just a trolling.(im far away from perfect in the grammer/spelling world but come on lol... )

    Just go about your life and start to try to understand the world we live in. You won't die if you leave her. Your basically hitting yourself saying that you won't leave her even though she is not 100% committed. So my advice is to grow a pair and look at things the way they are and proceed accordingly. Sorry if that sounded harsh.
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    Nov 25, 2008, 04:40 PM

    Good time to quote tal
    "Never let someone be a priority in your life while being an option in theirs."

    If you're not her obvious #1 choice, which you aren't seeing as she still loves/talks to her Ex, then break it off. She might love you, but not as much as her ex. You know that, but you don't want to acknowledge it. You need to be able to face reality and accept that this just won't turn out well. It's much better to break it off quickly.
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