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    ellarelli Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 17, 2008, 08:44 PM
    Moved in but doesn't actually live with me
    Hello,

    I'm trying to make out what this guy I'm seeing is doing, he moved all his stuff in my place told everyone that he was moving in with me.

    The issue is that he doesn't actually stay with me, he comes over every other day takes a shower changes clothes and sometimes he spends the night sometimes he doesn't.

    I know where he's staying at his dad's house, when I asked him why he doesn't stay with me he says: that it's because of his son. Since his son is not used to him being around another woman but his mom.

    He says; he feels that he would be disrespecting his son in someway having another woman around him.

    I'm just wondering what do you guys think, should I believe what he says or am I fooling myself.
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    Nov 17, 2008, 08:59 PM

    How old is the child,

    How long have they been separated

    Who does the chlld live with, dad or mom

    Sounds like you are OK for occasional sex but not to take home to momma type f thing.
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    Nov 17, 2008, 09:15 PM

    How long have ye been together?. He may really be looking out for his kid but it sounds unlikely.
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    Nov 17, 2008, 09:23 PM

    Is this the same guy that you are talking about in your other post??

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ip-281788.html
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    Nov 17, 2008, 10:42 PM

    The child just turned three years old last week.

    They just got separated about a couple of months ago.

    The child lives with him.

    Yes, this is the same guy that I'm talking about in my other post.

    I'm thinking it's time to let it go.
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    Nov 17, 2008, 11:24 PM

    This is not a healthy situation for you. He's not ready and should not be ready since it's been such a short time since he separated from his wife. He needs to be there for the child and he's right that he should not move the child in with you at this time.

    I'm surprised he even said he would move in with you already. That shows some poor judgement in my opinion.
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    Nov 18, 2008, 01:56 AM

    Sadly, it sounds like you've been strung along for a very long time. That mustn't feel good.

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