[sleepinbeauty]

okay.. so I recently started talking to an old flame again.. it was his idea to start "talking" again this time around I thought it would be more serious.. seems to me he's more immature.. for a while all he wanted to do was be with me & see me.. & now he only calls or texts once a week.I do like him & I'm scared of regection.. do I just stop answering his calls & texts? Or was he just waiting for me to "put out" & since I never did:confused: he got bored... I don't understand=[i try doing swee things for him like little gifts & suprises here n there. . Am I not good enough..

[starbuck8]

Is this the same boy you've been talking about all along? Regardless of whether it is or not, why would you settle for someone who seems less immature now than he did before?

Lets face it. Young boys your age quite often are only looking for one thing. Don't ever give it up just to keep a boy around... NEVER! Not even when you're older. If you give that up, he will most likely move on to the next girl. If you are afraid of regection, and are asking these kind of questions about him already, you are better off to leave him alone, and stop taking his txt's and calls. Do not keep buying him things. I know you think it's sweet, but you can't buy his attention, and he will likely forget that it was you who even bought it for him. You can't buy love with sex or money.

Honey, you are still young. Unfortunately you will have your heart broken many times. It's just a fact of life, and something we've all been through. If you want a boy that is worthy of your attention, don't go after him. Don't tell him everything there is to know. Don't get too attached too soon, and definitely don't sleep with him for a long time... and I don't mean the second or third date. I mean months. Give him something to stick around for! That way you will know if he wants you... or if he just wants some action. You can NEVER keep a boy with sex. It takes time and getting to know someone.

I know you might think that this sounds off base, and maybe even old fashioned, but trust me, people that tell you these things know what they are talking about okay? I didn't listen to people when they gave me what I thought was a bunch of bull, but geez I wish I would have listened! It would've been A lot less painful.

Slow down sweetie. You're still young! You've got LOTS of time to find the right guy. Don't settle just because you're lonely. Get to know a boy really well BEFORE you get too involved. There are some good ones out there, but there are also lots of snakes waiting to strike if you let them. :)