[KottonKandii]

Not to sound like the typical teenager but I really do need out of my house. I've thought about running away but that's too much of a risk even after I turn 18. Im currently 16 and being pushed to my mental/emotional limit living under this place I call home. Im constantly yelled at greatly restricted and I don't always have the safest feeling in my stomach when I'm home. It's a rarity that I'm not in tears when I'm home because of the constant yelling and judgement. My father hasn't hit me more than 5 times over my 16 yrs of life, but the countless times he's risen his fist to me is infinite. I'll admit I'm not always the most respectful person to my parents but it's strictly because they push me to world's end with all the mental stress and aggravation they put me through on a daily basis. It's a rarity for me to ever really snap out on them but every time I do it seems my anger seems to get worse and worse. There are days where they push my emotional state into such peril that suicide at times comes into the back of my mind. I really don't wish to be placed in foster care for I have too many plans for my future and too much of a life set here in PA.

My question now is would it be a better choice to:

-Try for Emancipation
Or
-Just to run away to a group of older friends that my parents aren't familiar with?

And if Emancipation seems to be the best choice, What are the terms for it?

[Clough]

Hi, KottonKandii!

I'm sorry that you're having a tough time of it at home!

Have you spoken with a counselor at your school about how you feel and the things that have been going on? If not, then I would strongly urge you to do that.

In addition to seeking out the advice of an adult who is a professional counselor, if you share some additional, specific information as to what has been happening and how you deal with it, I'm sure that there will be those of us who will come along here to give you some positive, proactive ways that you can cope.

I think that running away or avoiding, in whatever way, from the problems isn't a solution until all other possibilities of rectifying a situation have been tried. Why go where the grass is greener, when perhaps you could make it greener where you're at? Everyone has problems of various sorts with relatives. The thing is, is that they're your family and "burning the bridges" with them might not be necessary just yet or the best move that you could make.

Please do provide some additional, specific details as to what has been going on and how you have gone about coping with whatever has been going on.

We can help you to do some brainstorming here.

I'm glad that you do have some specific plans for your future! That's really cool! I would really like to see you be able to have any dreams that you have become a reality for you!

We wish only the best for you! :)

Thanks!

[spyderglass]

Do you have another family member you could stay with?
It sounds like it's more emotional abuse than physical abuse. I would be hysterical too if I was in that situation (seeing as even teenagers have feelings too! Yeah who would have thought!)
By the way that was sarcasm...

[mishelly3]

Its hard being a parent sometimes not to excuse anything your parners may or may not have done, I think everyone needs to consider everyone Else's feelings. Yelling and screaming solves nothing, and abuse is WRONG. But like the other say, you all need to talk, and you all need to have a mediator or a counselor to referee all of this. I know you must want to sit down and just have a normal conversation with your parents with out all the drama, Iam sure they want the same, you just have to find the right person to show you how to do it with out assaulting one another..
Be the bigger person and get help talk to anyone just get some help and hopefully everything else will follow..
And Kandi your in my thoughts and prayers and I pray for you and your parnets...

I wish you the best,

[KottonKandii]

Indeed it is more of a mental battle than a physical. There's my grandmother but she's the female genetic copy of my father not to mention she only lives 2 blocks away from them... As for the seeking the help of a therapist we've tried several, +& it always ends the same way. We go for one visit and no more. I've talked to my guidance consueler about this before. We've brought up emancipation before, +& the possibility of me moving in with my friends mother. She currently lives with her father but her mother said I could live with her, If I can get a job +& hold it for 6 months, Emancipation will become a definite option for me.