[noha ahmed]

Hi ,
I have a problem with my sister ,she is involved with a very mean guy ,she is so discreet because she knows we are not accepting that relationship & doesn't want to let us know anything about her or how far did that relation reach ,we tried advising her lots & lots of times but that guy totally brain washes her that we we can't really believe that despite the ugly treatment he gives her she still talkes to him & refuses to talk to us!! I even thought of hiring some guys to teach him a lesson but I was afraid that this might cause much more trouble that what we are already having...
Also I found out that she steels money from me to talk to him & meet him & really it is getting more & more ugly I don't know what to do or how to deal with her I can't stand talking to her anymore I don't even want to be anywhere near her ,but my I feel she is falling & need my help but she wouldn't take it even if I offered it how can I make her ask for it? Or even listen to what I'm saying??

[Clough]

Hi, noha ahmed!

Greetings and WELCOME to the site! I just moved your question that you had posted in Introductions to this topic area so that it would get the most exposure to those who are best able to answer it. Introductions is for people to introduce themselves and we try to not ask questions there.

It can be a little confusing when first learning how to use this site! Your question will get noticed much more in this topic area.

We would appreciate it if you would return to Introductions sometime to tell us a little about yourself though, if you would be willing to do that.

Thanks!

[TrueFaith]

Hello there. And welcome..

Sadly people going out with bad people. Is a very very comon thing in this world.

We all have are free will and even if we know better.. there is nothing we can do.. short of tieing them UP. And telling them not to go out..

At the end of the day if she can not see the signs.. then you will have to be there for her when she does.. because sooner or later things will come to a head.. Now if he beats her.. at all.
Then its time for you to step in and call the cops take some pics and everything. Of her. Even if she wants to or not. There are some things we should just not stand by and take.

As for the stealing issue.. you tell her. And be strong with her. Next time she does that you will take action.

And sadly we all want to help people. But we can't help those that can't help themselves.
They do need to take the first step.

Be a good sister.. tell her that you don't suport her choice in men. But you love and will always be there for her.
And leave it like that.

Because it seems to me you are just bashing your head on a wall. And that is helping no one.

Best of luck