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bman800 · Oct 30, 2008, 05:55 PM

OK first off I am a sensitive guy , I'm not a player or using anyone I just have a problem I need help with so please don't b**** at me . OK I went out with this girl named nikki for about a year and when we did we hung out every day all the time. On the phone texting ALWAYS IN TOUCH. (we were way too controlling over each other too) .then we started to argue . Then we started to yell at each other ALL THE TIME. So I put a stop to it and I told her we had to take a break . And while we were on our break I met a girl named kennedy who seemed really cool and was someone who you like being around. Then she started getting more and more attractive to me . We talked and I told her I liked her and she did the same . But the thing is she had a boyfriend . Today her friend comes up to me and says she is dumping her guy for me. But nikki still thinks we are on a break and is REALLY REALLY IN LOVE WITH ME . And I'm kind of scared on how it will emotionally effect her . Here are some facts that may explain why its so hard: I gave her , her first kiss and took her virginity. And ovbiosly I was her first BF . She stayed in our city instead of moving across the country because of me. I think I would rather date kennedy .but I don't want to hurt nikki. :'( HELP HELP THIS IS RUINING MY LIFE.
I can't imagine nikki with another guy. It would kill me.
There is so much more that I can say but would take forever this is just the MAIN POINTS. Its much more complicatted that you think .

What would you do if you were me?

AWess · Oct 30, 2008, 06:39 PM

Work things out with Nikki!

ZoeMarie · Oct 30, 2008, 07:00 PM

How long have you been on this break with Nikki?

asking · Oct 30, 2008, 07:09 PM

Anyone can seem cool to be around for a few days. You basically know nothing about Kennedy except that you are attracted to each other right now. That doesn't mean you should be with Nikki either though.

I think you need to take some time to make up your mind about Nikki without Kennedy in the picture. I tend to think you should tell Kennedy you can tell her for sure if you are ready to date her in a couple of months (or whatever amount of time seems reasonable). Then if you still aren't sure in X months, say you can't.

So when you decided to take a break with Nikki, what were the reasons?

450donn · Oct 31, 2008, 06:24 AM

Maybe you need a break from both of them until you can decide which one is more important in your life. That might take six months, it might take a year. No matter how long it takes you have to decide which is worth fighting for.

EN Ken · Nov 1, 2008, 10:18 PM

What about this situation makes it more complicated than it is? If there other relevant points then it's best to get them out into the open now so that we can take it all into account before giving any kind of advice. What other things do you think we should know?

For the time being, do not feel obligated to do anything. You did not tell Kennedy that you wanted to date her but did not because she had a boyfriend (unless you actually did and didn't mention it). The fact that you and Nikki went on a break also indicates that your relationship was in trouble to begin with. This could simply be an indication of just how much it was in trouble.

kayla_pink · Nov 4, 2008, 05:07 PM

I have to agree to what other people said you may feel attracted to keneddy at this particuaral point in time but do you really love her or do you still love nikki think about it