[DesparteMom]

Here is my story, 15 yrs ago I gave birth to a baby boy who I have raised all my life on my own. Now his father knew that I had him but refused to help , saying that if he seen me with a child he would kill us both. Fearing for my child's safety I left the province where we both lived and moved somewhere else because at the time , the police told me that without proof they couldn't do anything for me. Anyway , as I said 15 yrs has passed and my son is now grown but recently within the last 2 months , his father and I use that word lightly has been in contact with me. He rarely asks about the child , instead just continues to tell me how much he still loves me and how he still wants to marry me. He never takes the time to talk to my son , he may have spoke to him 3 times in the last few months but only because I make him. I put him in the situation where as he has no choice but to talk to him and even then its limited. He has not yet offered any kind of child support nor have I asked for it. I don't think I should have to. The only time he threatens to take me to court is when I refuse to tell him I love him back or that I will be with him. I have saved all the conversations that we have had and I have witnesses proving how well I care for my son and how stable our home is. Is there anything I can do to stop this madness.

[stinawords]

Well for starters stop answering his calls. Don't tell him whatever he wants to hear. You could have gone to court for child support a long time ago you still can but you won't get the fifteen years of support that you would have. If he makes any threats on you or your son and you have proof of it get a protection order.

[Fr_Chuck]

Ok, get some mental health counseling for yourself and your son.

You talk to him, and tell you you love him, you "make" your child talk to a man who does nothing, and has threatened to kill you.

I would say this is about as bad example of parenting as I have read on here for years.

You don't take his calls, refuse to talk to him.

You take him to court over child support, make him pay though the courts, something you needed to do 15 years agao.

You do it though court like you should have, you stop any talking to him