[Tan420]

Met this guy 2 months ago. We hit it off great in the beginning with him always calling me, always trying to meet up. We have so much in common except I am 29 years and he is 27 years.

He always spoke about his ex. They were together for 5 years and broke up about 5 months ago due to her been unfaithful. I did ask him if he is still hung up on his ex and he said no its not that and left it to that.

Then went to his place for a braai. He told me his ex would be there. When she arrived I was ignored for 2 hours and he was by her side the whole time. I did not make an issue about it.

When I saw him 2 days later I asked him if he is still hung up on his ex. His reply again was no. So I replied that I understand if he is and if they want to work things out I will step aside so they can. I asked to please be honest with me about it as I do not want to get hurt. I asked if I should step aside in a sms later that night when he replied 'no.. will chat later.'

Its been 2 and a half weeks since then and I have not seen him again. He is working double shifts due to debts been owed. He has called me a few times and have sent sms, saying he misses me. I call him 5 days ago and he tells me he is working another 2 weeks straight. I say are you serious?? Then I said 'Ok stranger give me a call sometime.'
I have not heard from him since.

Is he still into me or is giving me the hint to back off??

[450donn]

Where I come from the standing rule is no dating for two years after a breakup. Obviously this rule does not apply if you have been dating for only a few weeks, but after any serious relationship ends there is a period of mourning and adjustment. And if that is not allowed to be completed there will be problems. I would say to leave him and move on.

[AWess]

Sorry, it really doesn't sound like he's still into you. He might be busy, but he's not making any effort to see you.