[MaryJane1987]

Ok I was in a relationship for 5 years, when I met him I knew that he was the one I wanted to be with forever. However, after we had a child, these feelings had changed. I broke up with him about 4 months after our child's birth. And started dating a great guy, but I still thought about my ex a lot and sometimes id cry myself to sleep. It was like I had to prove to myself that I didn't want to be with him? I don't really know what happened. And I couldn't tell him how I was feeling because I guess I wanted to find out for myself what was going to happen with my current fling. But when I found out he was dating someone, all the feelings I had for him just landed on me like a ton of bricks. I was devastated. So I finally told him how I felt, kind of like you don't know what you got until its gone, and he was sort of upset. He kept asking "why now?" "why are you telling me this now?" So I thought maybe he was still interested. Then I thought maybe he just needed time to figure out his new relationship for himself as I did. Well I continued to pursue him, BIG MISTAKE, because it just pushed him farther away. Eventually I just was fed up and stopped trying to be with him. Its been a few months now and I recently asked him if we could be friends. He says he wants to but shows no interest in hanging out or talking. I guess my question is what do I do now and any advice on reconciling our relationship?

[talaniman]

I guess my question is what do i do now and any advice on reconciling our relationship?

Relationship advice-
Take a whole year for nothing but you and your child, and stay away from any relationship whatsoever. Especially with the father.

Relationship advice-
In this time you, and the child father get a plan of support, and visitation, and give this child all the love and security you can.


My guess is, if you leave the relationship stuff alone and do what your supposed to do, things work themselves out.

Either way be good parents first.