[michu]

I asked my boyfriend if he looks at other women and he replied "If there is a good looking woman walking on the street, I notice but that is it! Does this mean that he checks girls out or something else?

[J_9]

Don't you ever notice a good looking man even if you are not checking him out sexually?

My hubby and I have a saying "Just because I am on a diet doesn't mean I can't read the menu."

Sometimes it is just hard to keep from noticing someone who is good looking. And from what I get about what he says, he is "just reading the menu"

[Stormy69]

My hubby and I have a saying "Just because I am on a diet doesn't mean I can't read the menu.

Dang! I thought it was just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't nibble" OOOOPS!:p

I am all the time pointing out attractive women to my hubby.. I'll say Oooh honey look at her, I wish I had her -_____( insert body part here )
He will say. Nah I like yours better, every time:) This way, he gets to look at other women(which is completely natural,) and I get a compliment.
Now if he starts pointing out hot guys to me I will be worried!! :P

[NeedKarma]

It's all a matter of self-confidence. If you are forever doubting your own self-worth then you will see danger around every corner.

[valinors_sorrow]

Okay, okay, my "rep account" is like totally bankrupt, phooey pa-tooey! :(

Nods and laughs with J9... :p
Nods, laughs and pauses to think, "Wow how clever!" with Stormy... ;)
Nod nod nod nod nod nod nods with Karma, bullseye dude. :cool:

[JoeCanada76]

I bet you a million bucks (fake Money) that you look at other guys. You notice other guys. Most couples do not talk about it but you set yourself for a trap. Why would you ask that question? You should know he would look at other girls, and you should know that you will look at other guys. Here is the thing. Do you think there is a difference between looking and actually chasing down somebody. So just because you might find a guy attractive does that mean? Just because he may notice an attractive women does that mean? To many questions and believe me your borrowing trouble.

Joe

[tirednhurt86]

Heyy
I read both this post and your last one. I have some advice- I just got out of a two year relationship with my ex. I was not the skinniest of girls, and I know what its like to compare yourself with the girls he might look at on TV or people you know he finds attractive. But you have to remember that you are with him- he could have chosen them, but he chose YOU! And by even showing that it hurts u, you are showing him that you don't find yourself good enough- so why should he? Its hard to have confidence, especially in a society that tells us we need to be stick thin and gorgeous- but its what is inside that matters most. As hard as it is you need to remember that he is looking, and not touching- and that you look at good looking guys as well ( I'm sure)- it means nothing to take a glance. But trust him, and try and show him that you think highly of yourself. I know its hard to think of your man looking at some other girl, I have felt that way too, but you need to know that its normal for people to look at others and that it in no way belittles what you look like or who you r. hope this helped!

[talaniman]

I'm not on a diet but I can only eat my wife's cooking
And since I don't cook she just keeps lookin'.
She can look till her eyes pop out
As long as I'm THE MAN she hollers about!

[J_9]

TAL, I will have to remember that one!!

[Krs]

Listen, we are all human beings at the end of the day.
Im married, been with my partner for a total of 8 years. I can't expect him not to notice any good looking women... I mean even I notice a good looking women.. same as I notice a good looking man.

As I always say to my man, and he laughs..
There is no harm in window shopping, right??

[fredg]

Hi, michu,
Ever heard the ole saying "I'm not dead yet?"; in regards to looking at women?
I am 64, been married 29 yrs. I have no intention of getting serious with any other woman, other than my wife.
But, I'm not dead yet!
The trick is, just don't get caught by a girlfriend or wife looking at other women! Don't stare at them. When a g/f or wife is looking the other way, go for it; look all you can.
Wives also know their husband isn't dead, and know they look... but that's all. Better if they don't see you!
Your boyfrined has a lot to learn, and will with time, and experience with girls who don't like it. His answer should have been "No, why do you ask?", then be more discreet!

[Fr_Chuck]

It means he is still breathing, men for what ever reason are in the most part wired to be a very visual animal. And men ( even religouis ones) still enjoy the look at a pretty girl.

It does not mean they are going to talk to them, cheat on them, but even at 80 in the nursing home, he will still be looking. ( maybe forgets why he is looking but he will still look)

[kp2171]

I agree, absolutely and completely normal. We can be morons about it sometimes, but in general it is a harmless thing.

The fact that he told you the truth and didn't try to say what he thought you might want to hear is good, right?

[educatedhorse_2005]

Just keep reminding him were his bread is buttered