[michelob91]

I'm in love with this girl. I am always thinking about her and I can't get her out my mind at all. We talk everyday and sometimes all night on the phone and she writes me letters everyday, anytime I see her I can't help but smile, and lately I have been always in a great mood. I would do anything to make sure she is happy. It feels so right and something tells me that she is the one I have been waiting for. How can I go about telling her, I was thinking about writing a note and having it delivered to her with a vase wit a long steam rose in which she mentioned to me the other night, or should I tell her straight up? I know this is what I want and I do love her, but I'm kind of confused because I haven't felt this way for a girl before.

[chuff]

First I think you should not in any way write a note or send flowers. You haven't even gone out for the first time and when you do stuff like you are suggesting despite what they say that scares women off. Besides that, it almost sounds like a test to see if she can get you to do what she wants. You do not want to get caught in the passenger seat her and from your short post it sounds like she knows you are into her but may be trying to see who you are. You have to be the one driving or she is going to see you as weak. You also said you talk to her quite a bit, and if you want to make a go it I suggest you start talking to her less. The reason is if you talk to her all the time she will see you as a friend with whom she can dump her problems on. I'd recommend you stop talking to her for about a week and then when she contacts you or asks why you haven't been available say something like, "I've been busy, but we should make some time to get caught up. Let's go get some ice cream on such and such day and such and such time."

By doing that, you have established some time between you, you have given yourselves a topic to discuss, you have taken the lead and told her what day and time this will happen, and you have given her something to look forward to by going out with you. Furthermore, the ice cream thing is low key so it's not going to freak her out.

Then just be casual with her, do not be pushing anything and let her be comfortable around you. Then when things get good... make it very short about an hour, then end it. You want to leave her wanting more, if you talk to her for hours then she doesn't see value in that because she can have that all the time. Flowers and notes come off like you can't be yourself, they have a place down the road very rarely, but she needs be into you and not gifts.

[talaniman]

You may have some intense feelings, but is it love? Find out, by getting to know her, and see where it leads. The surest way to ruin things is to push to hard, to fast, without going through the process of dating, and having fun.

How old are you, and why haven't you been on a date??