[newmom20]

I have never had an orgasm and don't know what it feels like what can I do is there something wroung with me :mad: :confused: :o

[newmom20]

No I don't to tell you the truth I don't like to masterbate I just don't get off on it I rather have sex that I do get off on but I just caint

[simoneaugie]

Have you tried masturbation with a vibrator? If you don't know what makes you orgasm, then you can't explain it to him. It's too bad men aren't born knowing what works, they must learn it.

The vagina refers to the hole. Your vulva is all the important female parts on the outside. The vagina is not an inverted penis. The nerve endings get a very, very different feeling from what a man's penis experiences. Your penis is your clitoris, get to know it.

[talaniman]

Do you tell your man what to do, and where to do it?? Does he do it??

[kp2171]

It takes a lot of things to be "right"... just the anxiety about not having one previously can place a mental block in the way of your having one.

Self stim is a good place to start to learn about what your body needs... if you aren't comfortable with that, fine... it just places you in a position without knowledge you can use.

Ill also say that self stim during sex, while the man is in you, is one of the most powerful "tools" I've found lovers to use. Some positions might feel good, but not stim you at the clitoris as needed. The woman who isn't shy to reach down and help him help her is often a satisfied woman.

And then there is oral. Not to say this is necessarily the easiest way to get a woman off... its not hard to give "bad oral" to a woman, since different women like different things... but, as I've said before, if a gun was at my head and I was told to get my partner off or else, id be on my knees in no time.

So... orgasm in a woman can often requre self discovery, education, thoughtful dialogue... don't expect your partner to know what you need. Lord knows I've learned as much or more from strong women who demanded more for themselves than from any study, book, or reading.

[sxylilsmrf]

I started having sex 8 years ago. I didn't have my first orgasm until about a year ago. It kind of scared me for a minute, because it was such a new, weird feeling. I had decided to masturbate for the first time when it happened. After a few more times, I really started to enjoy it. One thing I've learned, if you try too hard, you're not going to hit it right. You need to relax, and just experiment. Once you hit it, you'll know. Once you can do it yourself, and you enjoy it, just wait until your partner hits it for you!! OMG!!