[Jvach7]

Hey, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 14 months... before that she was really into me and I wasn't so much, then we started becoming exclusive... things have been awesome! We were so content with just being together watching TV and cuddling, it was the perfect relationship. We haven't had sex so that's not an issue. But just recently she has brought up the idea of wanting a break, she tells me she is scared to lose me and that she loves me sooooo much but she just wants to see what its like to be single, she says she wants to come back to me, but I said if we take a break I will not be there waiting for her, so she keeps telling me she scared to lose me and that she loves me, we got off the phone last night both crying and we didn't really come to a decision... I made a decision to not text her or call her until she does it to me first, she keeps texting me that she loves me so much and that she misses me and her life sucks without me. And I will respond to her every time saying I love you too... I even asked her if she wanted to get back together after she said she missed me but she just said "i dont know yet i mean i do but i dont"... even after that she continues to send me texts saying she loves me and I will reply to them. What am I suppose to do? She is such an amazing girlfriend when things are going good but when she brings up breaks I can't deal with it... I want to be with her and we both have talked about getting married. I know there isn't another guy out there that she's into... I just don't know what to do? Should I stop replying to her texts? Or what?

[bigbird213]

Few things... First of all, it doesn't sound as though you guys are all that old. Secondly, talking about marriage (especially if your young) after only 14 months seems a bit quick to me, but maybe that's just me...

As far as what do you do now? There isn't much you can do. Your best bet is to go on living like she is not coming back. Put that thought right out of your mind.

Try to keep yourself busy working on things for yourself. Do what makes you happy and what makes you a better person.

As far as the texts go - yeah, I think you should stop responding. Its going to be tough, but why are you going to let her "take a break from you" but not sacrifice anything. That's not fair to you.

[Romefalls19]

Stop replying to her texts, breaks on here have one thing in common, they end in a break up. Don't sit around awaiting for this to happen, make your own terms. Live YOUR life, not waiting around for her. She is just stringing you around until something else comes along. Read the stickies at the top of the forum

[talaniman]

You should have asked how long of a break does she need, and if she doesn't know, give her what she asked for and disappear from her life and hope she is happy.

Asking someone to wait until you explore life is unreasonable, and unfair. You don't put your life on hold waiting for no one.

Too many good partners out there for that, as you'll see, IF YOU LEAVE HER, AND HER EXCUSES ALONE.