[HarryPT]

Hey pplz
I need little help I'm kind of confused... me and my wife been together for about 6 yrs(even thogh just got married) and we never used any condoms. So now she's late on her period for about 3 weeks. At first I got all moody because I didn't want a kid for numerouse reasons. She took a blood test about 2 weeks ago and it was negative. I was still not sure because she alwayz gets her period sooner then normal. She did another blood test yesterday and it came out negative again... WTF. What else can it be?

[DrJ]

Im not sure but here's a couple things to keep in mind:

1. Title your post with something that has to do with your question ;)

2. If you really don't want kids... GET ON PROTECTION! Geezo, if it HAS been SIX years with no protection, consider yourself LUCKY that you haven't gotten her pregnant already!! Lol

3. If she is getting blood tests done, and not urine tests, I would expect that she really isn't pregnant. I would think blood tests are far more accurate than the ones you buy at the store.

BTW, how old is your wife? That could really have something to do with what is happening.

[s_cianci]

Most women will experience some irregularities from their usual norms regarding their cycles at various times in their lives. Your situation is neither unique nor unusual. If 2 tests both came up negative then it's doubtful you have much to worry about.

[maria26]

Also as far as it being late... some woman skip sometimes, I know I do when I am stressed. I don't think you have much to worry about, but seriously if you don't want any children make sure that you protect yourself.

[kp2171]

If she gets pregnant you have absolutely no reason to be moody.

Even using birth control you are not guaranteed not to get her pregnant. See my avatar? That little guy is PROOF that birth control isn't 100%. Even women with tubal ligations occasionally get pregnant. And you are not even using birth control.

As for your question... all the reasons stated above. Health, tiredness, stress nutrition can be factors. Simply growing older can alter the cycle. One of the most common posts to this site is "am i pregnant"... because women who have sex have an occasional missed period or irregular... and sometimes its just an odd period and sometimes its due to conception.

[lovely mmt]

Hi Harry
Well I know it does take a few weeks for the hormones to show up in your blood if you are pregnant. I've been pregnant twice.
The tests might have been taken too soon to tell.
If not many, many other things could be a factor.
Is she under a lot of stress lately?
Age (menopause)?


There are other symptoms to look for if you want to know if she's pregnant. Like breast tenderness, lack of appetite from nausea, sleepy all the time, and sometimes mood swings.

If she is pregnant; I know you may feel you are not ready for a baby, but know that they are the best things in this world. It's all worth it.

[Chery]

I sure hope that both of you get a little more education regarding sexuality and the reproductive systems.
MY STRONGEST SUGGESTION IS TO SEE THE DOCTOR!!!
Check the following sites - they explain more than just pregnancy and should answer some of your questions.
Pregnancy 1st, 2nd, and 3rd trimester information on MedicineNet.com
Mayo Clinic medical information and tools for healthy living - MayoClinic.com
Ask Dr. Amy - Am I Pregnant?

Good Luck and keep us posted.

The more information, the better off you are.

[kp2171]

And until she knows for sure she should act like she is... no alcohol, no smoking... not bad to take some supplements like folic acid or at least multivitamin if nothing else.

[HarryPT]

Thankx pplz well we have seen a doctor like 3 times already he doesn't know what's going on either.and the blood test she took it once right before she missed her period and one 2 and half weeks after.the funny thing is she has all the symptoms like lack of appetite from nausea, sleepy all the time, and sometimes mood swings. So I don't know. But anyway thanks all...

[Chery]

thankx pplz well we have seen a doctor like 3 times already he doesnt know whats going on either.and the blood test she took it once right before she missed her period and one 2 and half weeks after.the funny thing is she has all the symptoms like lack of appetite from nausea, sleepy all the time, and sometimes mood swings. so i dont know. but anyway thanks all...

As stated before, it's hard to diagnose and/or assess anything over the internet. However, please be aware that the symptoms you just described are not just linked to a possible pregnancy. The symptoms even indicate a virus, head injury, or worse, so please see a doctor. The body is the only one we have in this life, and if your wife's life is important to you, take her ASAP. If the doctor who took those blood tests does not know what the cause is, then you really need to change doctors.

[J_9]

I noticed in one of your other posts you mentioned you were in the porn industry. Is there any way she could have contracted an STD?

[HarryPT]

Lol no that's out of the question I'm not an actor, I'm a producer I don't cheat on her with my employes

[J_9]

Okay, just a thought. Maybe your business stresses her out, just knowing what you do and what you see. Stress can cause all of these things to happen too

[HarryPT]

You think it could be stress related?(she is very comf. With my work our relationship is very open plus we don't bring the work home.) she is a head manager of a firm and she told me that she stresses out a lot because of her work. Could that be a reason??

[J_9]

Oh, yeah, stress does that to a woman, along with many other things. I know you say she is very comfortable with your work, but is she merely saying that because it is what you do and because of the money? I know many women who would answer this way just because they know it will make their man happy and they know that this is what their man wants to hear. I would seriously have a heart-to-heart chat with her and ask if the fact that you are watching this go on really effects her in any way shape or form.

I sure know it would bother me if it were my husband and I knew he saw this go on from day to day. That makes intimacy much more casual rather than intimate and loving. She may, deep down inside, be wondering if she measures up in any way to the women who you produce in these movies. It might make her feel very insecure whether she likes to admit it or not. You even admitted that most people in this profession are not married, this could be why.

This may be a deeper situation than you think. I may not be right, but it is just my opinion.

[HarryPT]

I feel what your saying, but let me tell you this even though we just got married we have been together for 7 years and we are very open with our relationship, trust me if she didn't want me to do this I wouldn't (im also a 3d animator)i would still make disent money just working for some company but I chose not to and I asked her right before I quit my job... if she's sure how she feels about my new carrier. And what comes about her being jelouse just because I work with porn stars all day... she has nothing to worry about (shes very pretty she has a very nice body) she is my porn star.. lol for life

[Chery]

I feel what your saying, but let me tell you this even though we just got married we have been together for 7 years and we are very open with our relationship, trust me if she didnt want me to do this i wouldnt (im also a 3d animator)i would still make disent money just working for some company but i chose not to and i asked her right before i quit my job... if she's sure how she feels about my new carrier. and what comes about her beeing jelouse just because i work with porn stars all day... she has nothing to worry about (shes very pretty she has a very nice body) she is my porn star..lol for life

Glad that you are doing fine together, now you just have to ensure that she's in good hands and maintains her health and wellbeing.

Good luck to both of you.