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    Sep 12, 2008, 03:42 PM
    In love with two men
    OK so,
    I grew up with this one guy who is amazing and we have always talked of dating and future but never had a chance because when I had a boyfriend he was single and vis versa. I then found the love of my life which I have been with for 2 years and live with thousands of miles away from him(the childhood love) and my family. I know that the man I am with I could spend the rest of my life with and be the happiest women ever, and he knows my feelings for the other guy as well and accepts them and is friends with the guy! The only prob I am facing is that I constintley think of the childhood love and it drives me nuts! What should I do to make this go away or should I act on it? I don't always want to think what if? And I don't want to lose the man I am with I love them both! They are really alike and I'm confused!
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    Sep 12, 2008, 03:47 PM
    That is a decision only you can make. I think you should write a pro and con list for each man. But if your with a man you could spend the rest of your life with , why are you thinking of this old flame??
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    Sep 12, 2008, 03:48 PM
    If u act on it, u will probably lose you current boyfriend.
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    Sep 12, 2008, 05:06 PM
    I think that I am still pondering the old flame because every time we see each other and talk he just cares so much about me and you can tell that there is a chemistry there that I wonder if I will always have... hmm.. plus I think that I like the fact that he has more of a drive in his career and he is more movitated to do well in like where as the guy I'm with now I feel will never be as successful :-(
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    Sep 12, 2008, 05:30 PM
    It shouldn't matter on the success of the man but the love you have.. u don't no the future who knows your current boyfriend could become successful and your old flame could get fired and have nothing!! Base this on true love
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    Sep 12, 2008, 06:12 PM
    In my opinion, you're risking a sure thing for a maybe...
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    Sep 12, 2008, 06:43 PM
    An obsessive nature isn't a good thing, no matter what the focus of the obsession is.

    Memories are supposed to be fond remembrances. Yours are accidentally being perceived by your mind as future options? That's too bad. Constantly looking over your shoulder at your yesterdays must make today very hard to enjoy.
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