[therocky]

Hi,

It has been 6weeks since my ex girlfriend broke up with me. It was my fault as I lied that I had something materialistic i.e. a property and it came out at the end that I didn't.
Her father got involved only to have a look at the so called property and the lies came rolling.
Chances were given to me to own up but I was scared and now at a loss. We were due to get married and well needless to say... but something is telling me to hang in there, we went out for 1 and a quarter years and well I do feel very empty without her.
She changed her mobile no. as I did send her texes a lot at the beginning. I don't phone her flat. I just am at a loss. I am changing with in myself to change what has happened, but the fact is none of her friends are saying or hinting anything to me.

What kind of chance have I got in even getting her back??

[Guidostern]

You should go on with your life. She obviously wants nothing to do with you... after all, she changed her cell number and if there was any chance, you would know it... if she wanted something to do with you still, she would contact you. Not trying to be rude or harsh, but just honest.

Just go on and don't worry about her. Worry about yourself... change for you, not someone else... do things for yourself, and no one else... live for yourself for a while.. there's no telling what you might find.

[bigbird213]

Its good that you are aware that you screwed up and that you are looking to change the faults that you see within yourself. Go forward and work to change these, for nobody else but you. You need to change what you see wrong within yourself to make yourself a happier, healthier, more whole person.

Perhaps in the future she may come back around, perhaps not. Either way, spend time focusing on yourself and what you need to accomplish...

[talaniman]

You screwed up, and now the consequences of your bad behavior has come between you two. This would be a good time to get your act together, and leave her alone. You broke the trust, and betrayed her, so don't expect anything at all to soon.

[JBeaucaire]

what kind of chance have I got in even getting her back??

None.

Besides, she isn't the most important thing you need to be "getting back" anyway. You have years of work to do on yourself and your life and your ability to function as an honest, unashamed person.

Every moment spent thinking about her is a moment wasted. You need to think about you, and there's a lot to think about, the sooner you start on that, the sooner you get the job done and can be worthy of any girl's undivided attention.

Good luck.