[hill14]

We met online a few months ago. He has been really nice to me and I really like him. I don't know what he feels about me. I mean he is indeed treat me so good that sometimes I though he might like me in a romantic way. But I am just not sure. I have one more concern that is I don't know if I should love him. I have school and talking to him has took me quite a lot of time. I am thinking if I should just focus on the school work. Also I am afraid that after paying off so much for him, what if he turns out that he doesn't have the same feeling as I do. I guess I am afraid of the feeling of being hurt. Can any one tell me what to do? Or does anyone ever been into this kind of dilemma?

[starbuck8]

You have obviously never met him. He could be anybody! It's very very easy to seem like someone else when you are talking online. Honestly honey... he could be an 80 yr old man, or a 10 yr old child for all you know! You cannot possibly love someone that you have never met face to face and spent time with, to get to know them personally. HE could quite honestly be a SHE for all you know. He could even be a serial killer, or a rapist! Believe me, it happens more than you think it does! I see big red flashing RED LIGHTS all over this!!

I think the situation here is, you're in love with the feeling of being in love! What do you mean when you say you have paid off things for him? Never ever do that! Not for any man, or anyone else for that matter, even if you know them face to face! Please tell me that you have not told him your address? NEVER EVER EVER give out your address, your phone number, where you go to school, or any other personal info to someone you've met over the internet! You could be in BIG BIG trouble! He could be a predator! NEVER agree to meet with him, unless it is with your parents, or a big brother or an adult, and always in a busy place with a lot of people around. Even then, it's just not a good idea at all!

Trust me on this one. You don't and shouldn't love this boy. In two months, you don't really know anyone, let alone be in love.

Focus on your school work, get a good education so you can find a nice boy where you live, and actually speak face to face, and get to know each other personally. Your school work is more important, and you will be much better off keeping your grades up. You shouldn't let your grades fail, by talking online and wasting time with this boy. That I can guarantee you, I promise!

[talaniman]

Starbuck said it all, as how can you put so much into a stranger, and what do you mean paying things for him? What's that about?? Don't be so silly in love you get used.