[mirage86]

So I met the girl.. whom I fell deep in love for.. I am 324 and separating from my wife.. the girl is 22 and jumped form bad relationship to bad and I mean bad relationship..
Over the past few weeks she has seen that life can be very rewarding.. I treat her like gold.. I want to make her happy so much..

We have looked into each others eyes many times and told each other which felt very genuine that it is so nice and how we lovce to be with each other...

Then one day I get a call that she wants to take some time away from me and get her life in order.. I understand that but she also states that she is not interetsed in being a part of the situaton after the sepration as she is afriad of the communication between my ex wife and later on fearing that I will go back to her ( which will never happen)

We make each other very happy and I onky want to adore her..

What should I do know.. I feel so hollow that she is not around..
She knew that I had kids and so one way before we got together..
We also talked about the future and how great it would be..
I expect that she has heard some horror stories about what it is like after the separation and I think she is expecting that.. even though it is not what is going to happen.

[talaniman]

She is right to protect herself, as a divorce would be better if your even going to date, as a separation could mean anything, even a rebound on your part.

Who wants to be a rebound?

[lmangileri]

That's quite the age difference! Lol. I'm guessing that's a typo. It kind of sounds like you're the rebound for her too. How long had it been since she had gotten out of a bad relationship? She may need to take some time to figure things out for herself instead of going from relationship to relationship.

[mirage86]

OOps.. I meant 323.. not 324.. no I meant 34.. I am a young 34 and she is a mature 22.
I do not see us as a rebound at all. But I amy be biased..

[MsMewiththat]

No only biased but almost blind. You have to really respect the fact that she is taking things slower and giving it consideration. If her track record is as you have defined, what makes you think that she is in a position to trust herself. She may be taking a step back to attempt to be sure that this isn't the next "bad relationship". Have you heard the saying that what ever glitters isn't necessarily gold? All relationships are good in the beginning and she probably wants to see clearly and through her own eyes. Time will tell with the two of you. Why not allow her the time without doubt and question. You can still adore her. Your sounding a little gang busters and that can be an alarm or a red flag for anyone. Pace yourself, steady wins the race

[happy_jester]

I am separating from my wife.. the girl has jumped form bad relationship to bad and I mean bad relationship

When I read your question,I have very real concerns!!

You are separating from your wife to be with her [and this girl has jumped from
One bad relationship to another]

You are,both,bringing these problems into the relationship,and you expect it to
Work!! :eek:

Then one day I get a call that she wants to take some time away from me and get her life in order

The reason for this,is that it honestly was too much too soon You'll also
Have to respect her wishes i.e. NO CONTACT!!