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    xxmitbxx Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 6, 2008, 09:54 AM
    I have issues
    I've been caught by my parents for a lot of things, and every time I do they end up shouting at each other,and I know its my fault if they split up, I've thought a lot of stupid things,like they are going to disown me,or they are going to split up... and every time I think stuf like this I feel depressed,I've cut myself a couple of times and still have the scars from it, I want it all to end, but at the same time I don't,I need help I'm breaking down,please help me
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    Sep 6, 2008, 09:58 AM
    Are you in school at all? I felt this way for quite a while. I wasn't caught doing anything by my parents. I actually was living with my dad and stepmom and they used to fight about what I was and wasn't allowed to do constantly and just argue in general about me. It got way out of hand and eventually she left but that was the worst 4 or 5 years of my life and I was constantly in the office at school talking to a counselor. Just to talk to someone about it helps. I at one point wanted to die too. If you're not in school, see if there is a counselor that you can talk to. It helped me tremendously.
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    Sep 6, 2008, 10:23 AM
    Parents divorce, kids do not cause it, often parents stay together too long because they try and stay together for the kids.

    Kids often want or think they are responsible but they are not, parents fight because of personal issues in their own life.
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    Sep 6, 2008, 11:49 AM
    Definitely ask for help with your feelings from a trusted adult, school counselor, parent of a friend, your own parents... whoever you feel comfortable talking with. If you need to, write your parents a letter to let them know how you feel when they argue. As was said, children don't cause parents to break up. People deal with things differently, it may be that arguing is simply how your parents deal with things.

    However, since you feel so strongly about how your behavior seems to effect your parents, consider thinking twice before you do things you know you shouldn't be doing... then you don't have to worry about being caught for anything. If it is something you have to sneak around to do, something you wouldn't want your parents to know about, something you wouldn't talk to them about, something you know would get you into a great deal of trouble, then it's probably something you shouldn't be doing in the first place. Make better choices for yourself.
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    Sep 6, 2008, 12:06 PM
    The first thing you have to do is forgive yourself.The second thing to do is not to repeat something that you might have done wrong.Third thing is don't think so negative.Fourth thing is to sit with your parents and tell them how you feel.This may seem hard to do, and I agree it is.But it can be done.Communication is the key here.
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    Sep 6, 2008, 02:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by xxmitbxx
    ive been caught by my parents for alot of things, and everytime i do they end up shouting at each other,and i know its my fault if they split up, ive thought alot of stupid things,like they are going to disown me,or they are going to split up...and everytime i think stuf like this i feel depressed,ive cut myself a couple of times and still have the scars from it, i want it all to end, but at the same time i dont,i need help im breaking down,please help me
    Start writing- when you feel bad-
    Keep a notepad next to your bed
    Or if your parents are the snooping type that
    Don't respect privacy- hide your notebook in a hoody in your
    Closet
    It helped me- the ex-rebellious teenager
    I just got tired of feeling trapped and depressed
    Other people have been there- and things will get better only after
    The s*** has hit the fan (so to speak) when things are at their worst- and it couldn't be worse
    It will get better

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