[perplexed1]

All right, so there's a girl I had a crush on last year, and we went to lunch a couple times, but things got awkward when she simply didn't respond when I asked her to dinner. She later said she still wanted to be friends and yada yada. After that point I let her be and moved on. However just a couple of days ago I was wandering the halls with some friends (a little buzzed) before we went out, and I ran into her in the stairwell. It completely caught me off guard, but because it was awkward the year before I tried to pretend like I didn't know her. However, she recognized me and we talked for a couple minutes. She ended it with "you should stop by some time".

Now, we don't have any classes together but I've run into her a couple of times since then but it was just a simple "hey" and we've spoken over AIM but that's it. I haven't stopped by because I'm unsure whether she was just being nice and saying that or if she meant it. Basically I still like her, but I don't want to do anything because I don't want to seem obsessive. I'm not sure if she was just being friendly, but I'm contemplating just being blunt with how I feel so that I can avoid the awkwardness. I was thinking of saying something along the lines of "Hey, I don't wanna be awkward like last year, but I like you and I really wanna get to know you better because you seem like an awesome person. But if you don't feel the same way, it's no big deal, I can still be your friend. I just wanted to get it out there so I could know where we stand."

My question to you all is whether I should tell her that (in some shape or form), or if I should just continue with what I've been doing, which is acting like just a casual friend. I kind of just want to find out so that I don't keep thinking about it, but I don't want to be weird about it.

Thanks

[simoneaugie]

Ask her. As long as your honest question is born of a desire to be clear and kind, it's all good. Even if the two of you end up just being friends, there won't be any more guesswork about where you stand at this point.

She may not give you an honest answer. But if you are honest and thoughtful when you ask, it was good practice at least.

[perplexed1]

Good point, thanks. I think I'll ask her to lunch again and see how that goes. If she says yes and it seems to go well, then I'll bring up the fact that I like her. If she says no then there's no need to say it.