[SweetDee]

Well, Sue and I both volunteer at the high school our children are attending. I have had the misfortune of hearing through a mutual friend that she is blaming me for manipulating her daughter, Kendra, into falling deeper in love w/ her boyfriend and that it's all my fault why she's no longer a virgin.

Her daughter is, (as I've already mentioned in the original thread), bullying my daughter at school. I am getting no help from the school board thus far. Kendra, the bully is seemly getting away with all of her bad behavior.

Sue, my exfriend, has joined her daughter's rampage in trying to trash our family in this small community.

I wish she would get a job so she can find more stimulation in her life, rather than to create drama in mine and my sweet daughter's.

Is it possible that she's right? That I did manipulate her daughter into loving her boyfriend? She used to confide in me so much. I thought her boyfriend was sweet. He's a nice boy... caring and loving toward Kendra. I was very thorough in being consistent w/ telling Kendra to go on birth control or buy condoms if she was going to go further than just oral sex. Mostly I would ask her not to rush into sex as she's only 13/14. Did I somehow help her to move forward into having sex w/ her boyfriend?

[akez]

Tough question really.. teens will do what they want. Although you might have been another mother figure in her life, she came to you and you didn't say don't do it, or you should really discuss this with your mother. You over stepped your boundries and almost condoned it by mentioning the birth control and condoms. You were friends once, you can work this out.. I would invite her to lunch and talk this out.

[SweetDee]

I did try to call her a few times, but to no avail. I'd love to clear the air... but not for the purpose of rekindling our friendship. I think that ship has sailed, but to "make nice" and have her understand what my intensions were. I do feel I owe her an apology for even getting involved.

I did tell Kendra to talk to her mom but she told me she didn't trust her mother. Her mom was trying to break up her daughter's relationship w/ her boyfriend. This is why the child didn't talk to her mom.

I knew the girl was headed in a more sexually charged direction and I began to just want to protect her from pregnancy and a bad reputation.

The mom, Sue, refused to deal with her daughter's sexuality. She and I were friendly, I mean she always liked me very much. I'm not sure I like her as much. It's when her daughter started to date this boy... she began to become someone I could relate to less and less.

When your kids become teens and get involved w/ boys and drugs, parties... whatnot... it's at that moment that defines the kind of parent you want to be. She just couldn't deal... :(