[povalla]

I've been datin this girl since 2 months and we had great moments she likes me and told me that I was her first guy who kissed and the first guy who she told she likes but... now we have problems she has a friend 3 years been with him she says she can't se him in this misarebel time when he found that we are together he told her he loves her than she thinks maybe she should and his pain and decide for him she told me she need space and I called her too much she says she don't know if she likes him more than me what to do let her go or not I've seen similar questions but this is something other.. she never had a guy I was first that kissed her she is a girl who likes one man for life she says she don't want to be with me than she couldn't break because she has a rule one man for life and want to decide between me or him should she heal his pain or be with me and she is with him in one faculity she must see him 4 years and she don't want this to see him bad... and me she can't see like him everyday in faculity because I study other and now I think she will leave me because she is nice and for a nice guy what to do please...

[starbuck8]

All you really can do, is let her know that you would like to be with her, and you will respect her and treat her right. She has to make up her own mind, and you can't do that for her. Tell her you are not willing to sit around and wait while she goes back and fourth between the two of you. Say that you care for her, but tell her that you are going to have to be firm with your decision. You might be surprised how she responds.

[povalla]

I did this I told her that I wait for your decision and respect it.. and I can't wait like this but I do it because I respect you and want that your decision has to be true..

[starbuck8]

Then I guess all you can do is stick to that. Set a specific amount of time, and tell her that although you respect her, she also has to respect you and your wishes. It goes both ways, and she can't play both ends against the middle. Tell her that you deserve to know, so you don't waste precious time, just because she can't make up her mind.

I'm telling you. Girls have more respect in the end for the guy who stands up for himself, and isn't sitting around waiting while she is seeing another guy. Stand up for yourself, and let her know that is what you need to do to find your own happiness.

[povalla]

She told me today that her answer is no till the study start and she isn't telling him nothing but want to know if she is in the same faculity and think about if her mind cross about me then she will know that she loves me I decided to end this for me but I didn't told her that I told her that I wait but not in the home I go out I have dreams and want them to fulfill.. But I didn't respect her and she always says about this she thinks bad of.. me to get me out she will do everything to get me out.. She will decide for him... I give up my hope but maybe she decide for me but really so I don't even dream about that I don't see her too much and he everyday how could she decide for me never... anyway thanks for your opinion it helps me get over